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Neighbor borrowing... question

We're fairly friendly w our neighbors... (2 sets of neighbors)

A year or so ago, we bought their treadmill cause... we wanted one and they needed the $.  It's okay-not the newest one, but it works fine.  We also created a workout room above our detatched garage that houses some equipment, tv, vcr, dvd... ping pong and some other fun stuff.

The neighbor's son has come over every once in a while and used the TM-he's a good egg, but I just got an email from the mom who would like to use it in the mornings (when we're at work, I'm assuming). 

DH is fine w it... I'm assuming she'd have to go through our house, get the key, go to the 'clubhouse'... and then reverse when she's done. 

I'm a little skeptical.  I don't mind every so often, but I don't want someone coming over every day and coming through my house when I'm not there-and even if I am there... Plus, they sold it to us...  I mean, she wouldn't take anything and knows how to get in our home, but I'm having a privacy issue.  I don't think I can ignore her emails much longer today, but any advice?  Suggestions?  (Her DH was the BM at our wedding, we invited their whole fam, and we didn't get a card--not that that should matter, but... even DH didn't get a bach party from this guy).  I'm sure I'll prob wind up letting her use it-I just don't want it every day-like, maybe if it's bad weather? not sure how to respond here...

Thanks ladies!

Re: Neighbor borrowing... question

  • She just emailed DH to ask him...
  • Dear neighborlady -

    It hasn't been working properly the last couple of days - shutting down in the middle of a run.  I almost had a spill.  I don't want you to get hurt.  I'll let you know what the repairman says, once we scrape up some cash to bring one out. 

    How's your son doing?

    Love,

    Lorelai

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    Dear neighborlady -

    It hasn't been working properly the last couple of days - shutting down in the middle of a run.  I almost had a spill.  I don't want you to get hurt.  I'll let you know what the repairman says, once we scrape up some cash to bring one out. 

    How's your son doing?

    Love,

    Lorelai

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  • Sounds good, Aria!---I know DH is peeved right now cause I ignored her email(s) and he just got one... I just have a feeling we'll give in. ugh.

  • I like Aria's response. I wouldn't want her coming over either. I would be honest, "I don't feel comfortable having anyone regularly entering our house to work out. I value my privacy and the privacy of our home, so I am sorry, but that workout plan won't work for us. I hope you understand."
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  • I would also feel really uncomfortable with that.  I wouldn't want anyone coming over regularly...that just makes me feel weird.  Even though you're friendly with them, I don't get why they think that's an ok arrangement.  I'd try to be as honest as possible and hope they understand.
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  • Unless she starts paying you like she would a gym membership, I wouldn't be ok with that.  Honestly, unless you're BFF I think it's a little weird.

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  • It's too big of an insurance liability.  If she falls or that thing does malfunction, she can sue you.  PASS.
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    Unless she starts paying you like she would a gym membership, I wouldn't be ok with that.  Honestly, unless you're BFF I think it's a little weird.

    No, she's not my BFF, just a neighbor friend and we do hang out and play cards and stuff, but... thanks!

    Good-I'm not just overthinking this... DH says he'll email her (at times, I am out of the office... although I was on fb earlier...).  not sure what he's going to say.

  • I like Aria's response too. It's an easy way to say no and avoid her using it without drama.

    If you decide to go with a different response, I still vote a big NO on her using it. At first I was a little torn like you are, but once she emailed your Dh about it too....NO. If she wants to use a treadmill to workout every day, then buy one not use your neighbors.

  • I'm late to this party but I am for the honesty policy.  Making something up with only put it off until a later date when she will start asking again. Also, if she knows you are using it (not sure how she would, but maybe she'd get snoopy) she'll start asking again.  Nip it in the bud now while you can. =)
  • ..and I semi-wimped out.

    I emailed her and said we were fine w her using it every once in a while provided she check to see if we're home, etc...   wimp wimp wimp.  But I'm sure part of it will bite me in the arse, anyway... I do have privacy 'issues'... ;) That's my reasoning.

    ugh!  And Karrey, she would know if it were working or not cause our DH's would get together to try to fix it...  

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