January 2010 Weddings
Noron
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January 2, 2010
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Has anyone seen this?
I was lurking somewhere last week (Relationships? Trouble in Paradise? I don't remember) and this woman posted a link to her blog.
http://www.doughmesstic.net/betrayal/
Password = dobler
I can't stop reading it - my heart goes out to her, but I think she's torturing herself by staying with a cheater. Ugh, it must be so hard.
January 2, 2010
EDD October 10, 2013
Re: Has anyone seen this?
BFP 02/2010 m/c 03/17/2010 dx PCOS 04/2010
BFP 08/13/2011 CP 08/15/2011
BFP 09/16/2011 EDD 05/20/2012
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I have been reading, but I have to catch up on the last few posts. I hate that she blames her self by referencing her looks and body all the time. That really gets to me.
But I also understand why she doesn't just up and divorce him. You can't just turn love off. DH and I had several discussions before getting married, saying this was permanant. IMO, things (except physcial abuse) can be worked out and your marriage can become stronger for that. So I have to give her props for trying to make it work instead of just giving up.
Though I think they need to be in couple's therapy. Her vision of making it work seems to be forcing him to do what she wants. That's not quite healthy.
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I do agree that she's not acting in the healthiest way, but at the same time it has not even been a month yet. Maybe she just needs time to completely process the situation.
If I were ever in her shoes, I would probably try to force MH to do/be what I wanted. I mean, my world would have collapsed so I need some way to hold it together. KWIM?
BFP 02/2010 m/c 03/17/2010 dx PCOS 04/2010
BFP 08/13/2011 CP 08/15/2011
BFP 09/16/2011 EDD 05/20/2012
Claire Elizabeth, born 5/30 via a med free birth
I totally agree.
Panda, I completely get what you're saying and I'm very sure I'd try to work it out with my H as well...but I really think it would take an awfully long time to ever trust him again. At one point, doesn't she ask him if he'll cheat again? And doesn't he say he doesn't think so? Yeah, I don't know if that would be good enough for me. I think the other HUGE obstacle that will be damn near impossible to overcome would be that he was in love with this woman. He didn't just get drunk and have sex with someone...he fell in love with another woman and snuck around for MONTHS, only to tell his wife when he got caught.
Really, I can't even imagine. They most definitely need lots of therapy. And the poor baby! You KNOW he's picking up on all of this.
January 2, 2010
EDD October 10, 2013
I don't deny that and I'm not saying she should be trusting him right now. But the fact that that she has made him delete the other girl's contacts from the phone, etc... I mean I guess I would do that too but he should have done that on his own. I guess if you're a cheater though you might now have to morals to do what's right on your own.
But on the same token making him do things isn't going to fix anything. It's hard to have an opinion when you've experienced it before.
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I agree, it's easy to say "Well this is how I would act" without ever having to be in that situation. Overall, he messed up and now she is struggling to deal with/fix it/handle it. In some cases, she may be making a wrong decision or two.
I also feel so so horrible for their son. He will need some therapy later.
BFP 02/2010 m/c 03/17/2010 dx PCOS 04/2010
BFP 08/13/2011 CP 08/15/2011
BFP 09/16/2011 EDD 05/20/2012
Claire Elizabeth, born 5/30 via a med free birth