January 2010 Weddings
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Thank You's

Hi ladies,

So has anyone actually started/finished their thank you's? I have had mine for about a month and a half and have not even started them. I am really dreading having to write them out. Our goal is to have them mailed out the first week of May...which is approaching quickly!!  When is everyone else planning on getting them out?

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  • Well, because I'm super anal about etiquette, mine were written, mailed, done within three weeks of the wedding... and that's even with living outside of the country and having to use a currier (sp?) service to get them to the States before mailing them.

    Several guests have commented to my parents about how awesome it was that we sent them in a timely matter.  I think more and more people neglect TYs these days and I'll probably get flamed for this, but I honestly shudder at January brides who have yet to mail them out.  

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  • I've had mine done for weeks but they've been sitting in my living room. I FINALLY got stamps on Saturday, so now I just have to put them on and send them out. They'll go out this week!

  • raeynraeyn member
    I got them all done about 5-6 weeks after the wedding, but I just received a belated card/check 3 weeks ago and haven't gotten around to sending a thank-you for that yet... oops. I will definitely get on that tomorrow.
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  • Wow you ladies are on top of it! I will have to get motivated and start writing when I'm not working on school work for my grad program. They will def be in the mail the first week of May...that is my goal!
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  • I was really anal about getting them out...I had them all written and mailed by 3 weeks after the wedding...

     ...I still haven't gotten one from a wedding we went to in November...and at this point, I'm pretty sure we're not getting one.

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  • imagemelko4886:

    I was really anal about getting them out...I had them all written and mailed by 3 weeks after the wedding...

     ...I still haven't gotten one from a wedding we went to in November...and at this point, I'm pretty sure we're not getting one.

    I would be on the phone, "I haven't heard from you in a while, I just wanted to make sure you got our gift! 

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    We received one gift with no card, so I sent a thank-you to everyone who attended (gift or no gift) in hopes that the mystery guest would call to make sure we received it. Unfortunately, no luck.
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  • NoronNoron member
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    Mine were done and out by the end of January; H (even with his schedule of full-time school and working overnight!) did his by the end of February.  I am also a stickler for etiquette - we got a TY right after our wedding from a Pretty Pretty Princess Day we attended in August.  I really, REALLY judged.
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  • I am still working on mine, but that is mainly because we are still receiving gifts.... the bulk of mine were done 2-3 weeks ago, I think. A little late, but our friends and family understand our circumstances and were very patient in waiting for us to get things sorted out with our move and home sale.
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  • imagepandasquishy:

    Well, because I'm super anal about etiquette, mine were written, mailed, done within three weeks of the wedding... and that's even with living outside of the country and having to use a currier (sp?) service to get them to the States before mailing them.

    Several guests have commented to my parents about how awesome it was that we sent them in a timely matter.  I think more and more people neglect TYs these days and I'll probably get flamed for this, but I honestly shudder at January brides who have yet to mail them out.  

    This. It been about 90 days. They really should be done by now.


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  • imagepandasquishy:
    imagemelko4886:

    I was really anal about getting them out...I had them all written and mailed by 3 weeks after the wedding...

     ...I still haven't gotten one from a wedding we went to in November...and at this point, I'm pretty sure we're not getting one.

    I would be on the phone, "I haven't heard from you in a while, I just wanted to make sure you got our gift! 

    One of BFF and BM got married May '09. When I asked her how she liked the gift we got them/did they get it, her response was "Yes, but don't expect a thank you. We don't believe in them. Gifts are required at weddings." I was shocked she actually said this. 


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  • imageeskamo:
    imagepandasquishy:
    imagemelko4886:

    I was really anal about getting them out...I had them all written and mailed by 3 weeks after the wedding...

     ...I still haven't gotten one from a wedding we went to in November...and at this point, I'm pretty sure we're not getting one.

    I would be on the phone, "I haven't heard from you in a while, I just wanted to make sure you got our gift! 

    One of BFF and BM got married May '09. When I asked her how she liked the gift we got them/did they get it, her response was "Yes, but don't expect a thank you. We don't believe in them. Gifts are required at weddings." I was shocked she actually said this. 

     

    GAG!!!  1. No, gifts are not required.  2.  Thanks you's are always necessary.  

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    imageeskamo:

    One of BFF and BM got married May '09. When I asked her how she liked the gift we got them/did they get it, her response was "Yes, but don't expect a thank you. We don't believe in them. Gifts are required at weddings." I was shocked she actually said this. 

    Wow. And what exactly is it they don't believe in? Common courtesy? Being appreciative? I don't tend to care if other people follow wedding etiquette to the tee, but I can't fathom how/why anyone would be ANTI-thank you card.

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  • imagepandasquishy:
    imagemelko4886:

    I was really anal about getting them out...I had them all written and mailed by 3 weeks after the wedding...

     ...I still haven't gotten one from a wedding we went to in November...and at this point, I'm pretty sure we're not getting one.

    I would be on the phone, "I haven't heard from you in a while, I just wanted to make sure you got our gift! 

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  • imagepandasquishy:
    imagemelko4886:

    I was really anal about getting them out...I had them all written and mailed by 3 weeks after the wedding...

     ...I still haven't gotten one from a wedding we went to in November...and at this point, I'm pretty sure we're not getting one.

    I would be on the phone, "I haven't heard from you in a while, I just wanted to make sure you got our gift! 

    well, since they got married after I sent their invitation to our wedding, I had to ask her for her new address. When she responded with her address, she added, "Oh, and I need yours too!!"

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  • I finished mine a few weeks ago.  DH, on the other hand, just finished his last week after lots of prodding.  That was really his fault; I couldn't help him since he addressed all of his side's invitations and wouldn't put the addresses in the spreadsheet!

    The worst is when random gifts come in.  Don't get me wrong, I like gifts!  I got a gift from a family friend just last week, and all I could think was that I am so over writing thank yous!

  • All of our TY's were done within 2 weeks because I had just started my new semester and had some down time. We actually just received a gift the other day, so I do have that thank you to do, which I should write right now while I'm thinking about it. :)
  • I just finished addressing mine so thats one step in the right direction. I will try and have them out asap! I can't speak for the ones that MH has to write out I will try and get him to do his as well...
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  • imageraeyn:
    imageeskamo:

    One of BFF and BM got married May '09. When I asked her how she liked the gift we got them/did they get it, her response was "Yes, but don't expect a thank you. We don't believe in them. Gifts are required at weddings." I was shocked she actually said this. 

    Wow. And what exactly is it they don't believe in? Common courtesy? Being appreciative? I don't tend to care if other people follow wedding etiquette to the tee, but I can't fathom how/why anyone would be ANTI-thank you card.

    Ha! I literally LOL'ed. Yea, I love her but she was definitely one of the BSC bee-bee brides that populate the nest. i.e.: she only fed half of her guests while the others sat around talking. And only offered toasting flutes to herself, the groom, and the parents; yet, every single BM and GM (12 total) were required to give a toast. 


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  • imageeskamo:
    imageraeyn:
    imageeskamo:

    One of BFF and BM got married May '09. When I asked her how she liked the gift we got them/did they get it, her response was "Yes, but don't expect a thank you. We don't believe in them. Gifts are required at weddings." I was shocked she actually said this. 

    Wow. And what exactly is it they don't believe in? Common courtesy? Being appreciative? I don't tend to care if other people follow wedding etiquette to the tee, but I can't fathom how/why anyone would be ANTI-thank you card.

    Ha! I literally LOL'ed. Yea, I love her but she was definitely one of the BSC bee-bee brides that populate the nest. i.e.: she only fed half of her guests while the others sat around talking. And only offered toasting flutes to herself, the groom, and the parents; yet, every single BM and GM (12 total) were required to give a toast. 

    WOWWWW. was there at least an open bar? because DH and I would probably get as much as we could get from them...that would have been the only thing to make me stay!

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  • imageeskamo:
    imageraeyn:
    imageeskamo:

    One of BFF and BM got married May '09. When I asked her how she liked the gift we got them/did they get it, her response was "Yes, but don't expect a thank you. We don't believe in them. Gifts are required at weddings." I was shocked she actually said this. 

    Wow. And what exactly is it they don't believe in? Common courtesy? Being appreciative? I don't tend to care if other people follow wedding etiquette to the tee, but I can't fathom how/why anyone would be ANTI-thank you card.

    Ha! I literally LOL'ed. Yea, I love her but she was definitely one of the BSC bee-bee brides that populate the nest. i.e.: she only fed half of her guests while the others sat around talking. And only offered toasting flutes to herself, the groom, and the parents; yet, every single BM and GM (12 total) were required to give a toast. 

    You've got to be kidding me!  She only fed half her guests?  Did they have a sit down meal and some just didn't get food?  What did they eat?  I just don't understand how someone can think that's okay when planning a wedding. 

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  • Nope, cash bar :(. As for food, I'm not sure. She invited about 400 people, but only planned on 150ish. So, when 250 showed up (she didn't have ANYOne rsvp) they just served the people sitting closest to the kitchen. It was weeeird.

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    imageeskamo:
    Nope, cash bar :(. As for food, I'm not sure. She invited about 400 people, but only planned on 150ish. So, when 250 showed up (she didn't have ANYOne rsvp) they just served the people sitting closest to the kitchen. It was weeeird.

    I've never heard anything like this before!  What kind of venue did she get married in?  And did everyone at least have a chair?

    I don't think I would attend a wedding I couldn't RSVP for - I think that's a bad sign.

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  • She got married on Lackland Air Force Base, the room was nice. And yup, at least everyone had chairs. I was a BM - had to attend :(. lol. She really is a great person, just lives on a beer budget with champagne taste! I really wish she would have discovered P&E on theknot, that would have been awesome.

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  • imageeskamo:
    Nope, cash bar :(. As for food, I'm not sure. She invited about 400 people, but only planned on 150ish. So, when 250 showed up (she didn't have ANYOne rsvp) they just served the people sitting closest to the kitchen. It was weeeird.

     I have no words.

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    imageeskamo:
    Nope, cash bar :(. As for food, I'm not sure. She invited about 400 people, but only planned on 150ish. So, when 250 showed up (she didn't have ANYOne rsvp) they just served the people sitting closest to the kitchen. It was weeeird.

     I have no words.

     Yeah, this. 

     I sent my thank-yous out as gifts arrived, so most actually went out before the wedding. I sent one big batch after the wedding. I have one more, for a belated gift that came in just a few weeks ago, that I still need to write. I keep forgetting because I haven't written any in so long!

  • I KNOW I KNOW.... i need to get this done, but we have not gotten our photos back (in Aus) you always send a wedding photo with the thank you card...it has been bugging me for weeks that we have not gotten this done yet!!! (THANXS FOR MAKING ME FEEL WORST!!!) lol
  • Ours have been done for a little while now...but when DH lost his job we also lost money for anything extra (like postage for TYs).  He's been working again for the last couple weeks and once we get caught up on bills I'm heading straight to the post office.
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