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He wants me to "be more aggressive" in bed
But i don't know how to. I didn't ask him because he was already looking like he felt really awkward. I had just casually mentioned in a conversation that I enjoyed being on top because it gives me a sense of control and domination. Then he said that, if I felt that way, and if I was up to it, it would be really cool if I was more aggressive in bed. Then he got all shy and changed topics. So, if anyone has any ideas, i'd love to hear them, lol. 
Re: He wants me to "be more aggressive" in bed
Grab him by the hair and tell him what you want him to do, make him ask for it, nicely adding a yes mistress in there. Feel free to slap him to make corrections. Also slapping and pulling his hair when he is **uuummmm ya knowing** I use Japanese silk rope (no rope burns) to bind his hands. Add some biting.
It's awkward at first, but it is empowering. As ElizabethD said - ask him what he thinks is aggressive/sexy - there's a stimulating conversation that can lead right into sex.
Ravaging him is part of it, but what can be the real rush of being more aggressive in bed is getting exactly what you want from him.
Start slow, like when he's going down on you. Tell him step by step what you want him to do. It's the best feeling!
Good Luck and have fun!
If you're home before he is, grab him when he walks into the bedroom & throw him against the wall. Semi-forcefully undo his belt, push down his pants/boxers & give him a blowjob. Helps if you're in sexy lingerie with fvck me heels.
You guys managed to have a baby, yet he is 'shy' about what he wants in bed. I don't mean to sound condescending, but seriously, the best way to know exactly what he means is to ask HIM!
How you asked this board, is essentially the conversation you should be having with him.
yeah. i guess it would be much better to just ask him what he really wants.
You will both find that those long awkward conversations are SO rewarding in the end and they get less awkward the more you talk.
A couple things that help to alleviate the awkwardness is try talking over IM or email? If he ways anything you want to know more about go back and review it some more. It's easier this way because your not looking at the other one. If you can't do this easily the other way to make it easier is talk about it when he's already in the mood, and never right after. Just like after a few drink your inhibitions are lowered, it will be easier for him to tell you what he likes when he's turned on. And we have found that right after... we are real shy about it again and don't like talking about it.
I hope this helps and if you want more help/advise I have lots, just email me! enchantedjasmine@yahoo.com
BTW you should be careful googleing dominatrix type stuff like someone suggested... You may just get scared off because of some of the extreme stuff that's out there...If he says he likes bondage it might not mean whips and chains, he may just like you to keep his hands held over his head.
Just talk to your husband and see what he likes, and why he likes it.
Hope this helps!