Your first love

Philly6*6*09 · April 2010

Is it your husband?

How old were you?

Do you still talk to them?

Do you still think of them?

Philly6*6*09 · April 2010

My husband is my real love, my adult love if you will. I did however have other "loves", but they were more on the lines of puppy love.

I was probably in 9th grade, so 14/15?

No. Haven't spoken to this person in a long time. We went to different schools, and really only knew each other thru CCD. Kinda just grew apart.

I think of this person every once in a great while. He was my first kiss, as well as my first boyfriend. (lol, he would come over to my house, and we would make out while watching Bevis & Butthead...sweet). Then we both just got involved with sports, and kinda of went our seperate ways. He was in jail for a while - not sure for what. I just found him on FB, and I see that he is getting married this August. (Part of me is happy for him, part of me is a little sad (don't get me wrong, I love my Hubs)...and part of me is mad at myself for feeling sad.

mamie329 · April 2010

Not my husband.

We dated from the time I was 14 to 20 with a few breakups in between.

I do not talk to him, but I do think about him. Not in a "miss you" kind of way, just in a "wow, that person was a big part of my formative years. I wonder how he is."

kaleyandjason · April 2010

I'm like you. My husband is my first real, adult love. I always thought I loved people in the past, but now I know those were like a precursor to the real thing.

The first guy I really thought I loved was in 8th/9th grade. He turned out to be a jerk (of course) and is now an alcoholic. We had a brief reconnection about 3 years ago, but that was when I really found out what a loser he was.

Then the other guy I thought I loved was only about 3 or 4 years ago. People thought we would get married, but when I wrecked my car only about a mile from his house and he wouldn't come to help me out, I kicked him to the curb. He is now married and has his BSC, 17 year old wife knocked up.

Yeh, I pick some winners, what can I say.

ChooGirl · April 2010

Is it your husband? First real love? Yes. First time I thought I was "in love?" No.How old were you? I met Mr. Choo when I was 16 while I was dating someone who I thought I was "in love" with. Turns out, that boyfriend was just really pretty to look at and there was not any other substance to our relationship. Relationship ended and I've been with the mister ever since. It will be 10 years in August... swoon/gag.Do you still talk to them? Yes, he was at my wedding (in fact, both of our exes were in attendance)! Long, long story, but we had a horrific breakup (I left him for Alex and he didn't take it so well), then we reconnected a year later and became friends, then... wait for it... he came out of the closet to me and my family (his parents are Southern Baptist missionaries and we're the only people he's ever publicly admitted this to). Wowza. We've been good friends ever since, but he did have a small nervous breakdown the morning of me wedding. Apparently he never told his family that we broke up-- I'd been his "beard" for the past 11 years... like I said, long story.Do you still think of them? Yes, often. We talk pretty frequently (he lives in VA now), and my heart just aches for him. He tried coming out to his parents once and they sent him to sexual reprogramming camp--- yes, that really does exist. Now he's apparently "straight" again. Poor, poor guy.

Leigha12 · April 2010

DH is my first "adult love". We met when I was 17 and have been together since we were both 18 (11 years!). But my first love started when I was about 9 and lasted until I was 16. I think if my family or I had ever moved back to NY, I would have ended up with him whether he liked it or not! lol

Our fathers were close friends when we lived up there (until I was 8) but we moved back to Texas before I ever met him. When I was 9, we went back for my brother's wedding and stayed with his family (his dad recently passed away). He was my age, and I was instantly in puppy love. We met again when we were 12. I still felt the same. I was there for the summer and saw him a couple times. Same thing when I was 15. When I was 15, though, I spent a lot of time with him. He was the second guy I'd ever kissed (and first one who was any good at it). I was as much in love as any high school girl could be. I tried to reconnect in college, but his name is way too common and I was never able to find him online (still can't). Then I met DH and forgot all about it. I do still think about him from time to time but mostly in a "I wonder what he's up to" way. I think I'd still like to know.

ChooGirl · April 2010

Leigha12:
DH is my first "adult love". We met when I was 17 and have been together since we were both 18 (11 years!).

Wow- there are quite a few J09'ers that have been dating the mister since the beginning of time. Seems we were in a big rush to make it down that aisle... haha.

chrissyvcm · April 2010

Philly6*6*09:

Is it your husband? Yep, and I was his.

How old were you? I was 19 and he was 21

Do you still talk to them? Everyday

Do you still think of them? ^

Leigha12 · April 2010

For us, meeting that young meant a lot of growing pains along the way, so there were times I was in a rush to the aisle, and times when it was the furthest thing from my mind. Of course, our parents weren't kept apprised of our roller coaster, so they were getting REALLY impatient.

ChooGirl · April 2010

Leigha12:
For us, meeting that young meant a lot of growing pains along the way, so there were times I was in a rush to the aisle, and times when it was the furthest thing from my mind. Of course, our parents weren't kept apprised of our roller coaster, so they were getting REALLY impatient.

Your parents and my parents would have a lot to chat/commiserate about...

kaleyandjason · April 2010

Choo - That is one crazy story about your ex.

I've only been with J for barely over 2 years. And we have been married for almost 1. Add that I am only 22 years old. . . Wow, that sounds bad.

stephriz · April 2010

ChooGirl:
Leigha12:

DH is my first "adult love". We met when I was 17 and have been together since we were both 18 (11 years!).

Wow- there are quite a few J09'ers that have been dating the mister since the beginning of time. Seems we were in a big rush to make it down that aisle... haha.

We started dating when we were 18 and were together 8 years before we got married. We were in no big rush either!

LarkNow · April 2010

Is it your husband? No. I had boyfriends throughout jr. high and high school and if you asked me I would have said that was love, but my first real love was probably in college.

How old were you? 17 when I met him, 19 when we started dating.

Do you still talk to them? Yes. We, along with 5 other friends, were all super close in college. We call ourselves the Magnificent Seven. He came to my wedding, though I think it sort of sent him into a tailspin. He was doing a postdoc in Britain and came over for the wedding, then it turned into a cross-country sleeping-with-the-exes extravaganza, where he slept with like 4 of his 6 ex-girlfriends from one side of the country to the other. This I hear all from my best friend, who keeps in closer contact with him than I do.

Do you still think of them? Well, yes. As a friend. There was a part of me that did always think we'd end up together, even after we broke up, but meeting DH made me not care about any of that any more.

megs1383 · April 2010

Your first loveIs it your husband? Yepp. Dated a few guys prior, but DH and I were eachother's first really serious relationship. How old were you? i was 21 he was 22 (way old compared to some of you), we were together about 4 yrs before the wedding...Do you still talk to them? everyday!Do you still think of them? of course

Junebug060609 · April 2010

Is it your husband? No

How old were you? 17-18

Do you still talk to them? No, we've lost touch

Do you still think of them? Occasionally, in a 'hope he's doing well' kind of way.

Savy _05 · April 2010

Is it your husband? YesHow old were you? 16 when we started dating, probably 17-18 when i knew i loved himDo you still talk to them? all the time! hahaDo you still think of them? pretty often!

hawkilady · April 2010

Is it your husband? No but my husband is my first "real" love but I just didnt know the others weren't real How old were you? 16 when I started dating him but I have known him my whole life, we were born 2 weeks apart and our parents were friends too Do you still talk to them? when I run into him in my hometown, we had a really rough breakup because I cheated on him with another friend because I was too scared/stupid to break up with him and knew he would break up with me because I didnt want a long distance relationship in college. He was talking about us getting married. It didnt go well but we became friends again about a year later and might have hooked up a few times after that off and on for the next year or two. For the last 7 or 8 years, I only talk to him about once a year or so. He actually got married the week before I did. Do you still think of them? Every once in a while but there hasnt been any romantic feelings about him in a very long time.

SBS0628 · April 2010

Is it your husband? Nope

How old were you? 16

Do you still talk to them? Yes, about once every couple of weeks

Do you still think of them? Yes

I have to say, I find it interesting that people say there's a difference between their "first love" and "first REAL love." I mean, do I think the love I had at 16 is even comparable to the love of a marriage? No, not at all. But I don't doubt that what I had at 16 was the love I was capable of having. I'm intrigued as to how/why others are making the distinction...

mamie329 · April 2010

SBS0628:
I have to say, I find it interesting that people say there's a difference between their "first love" and "first REAL love." I mean, do I think the love I had at 16 is even comparable to the love of a marriage? No, not at all. But I don't doubt that what I had at 16 was the love I was capable of having. I'm intrigued as to how/why others are making the distinction...

^This. I had two loves in my life - and I recognize they are different from each other and aren't a great comparison, but my first love was definitely real to me, and I promised myself when it ended (and it ended badly) that I would never say it wasn't love.

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