sex...of course

mmfisa · April 2010

so...i have had sex twice...i'm happily married, but i never have sex cuz i am afraid that it is going to hurt too much. the times we did have it, there wasn't even that much penetration; what do i do?? i really need a guide book or something.

HisCB · April 2010

really? the phrases happily married and never have sex do not belong together at all....

if this isnt mud/troll, my advice, talk to ur hubby. go slow. use lube. masterbate by yourself and a small di|do. get counseling.

mmfisa · April 2010

maybe not entirely happily married, you are right...i'm 25 grew up in a very strict house, and we never talked about this stuff...so now i need advice

carlobee · April 2010

yeah. you should talk about it. or maybe watch some adult movies to help you out.

EngineerAaron · April 2010

No, don't learn from porn. Most of it doesn't portray how sex should actually be between two loving people.

Lil'BlackDress · April 2010

If you've hardly done anything before it might be uncomfortable for the first bit, it gets better, take it slow and use lube.

and read a book about sex so that you're not completely unaware as to whats going on with your body.

Violet_McPurpleson · April 2010

It's going to hurt the first few times. Relax, use lots of lube, and make sure you are adequately turned on before you are penetrated.

I also reccommend masturbation so you can learn what you like and show your H.

Practice, practice, practice.

megd06 · April 2010

carlobee:

yeah. you should talk about it. or maybe watch some adult movies to help you out.

I think this is the worst advice I've ever seen. Ever.

And I'm calling MUD.

pechezncreme06 · April 2010

EngineerAaron:

No, don't learn from porn. Most of it doesn't portray how sex should actually be between two loving people.

I agree. I actually think that anyone should watch porn, but that is just my opinion.

JustDuckyDancer · April 2010

MUD

Karebear2 · April 2010

Ok, this is common. First, just relax. I know it sounds simple...but when you relax, your body will follow. Lube definitely helps. Also, the more foreplay there is, the easier it will be for "penetration".

Know that it's a journey! You have your WHOLE life to perfect it!

It won't be perfect at first! In fact, it might take months to feel in sync and to really enjoy it. But you know what? YOU CARES...you'll get there! Let our body adjust to everything new that's going on! For goodness sake, it's a big deal! I think that your body needs to get comfortable with it. So don't stress...know it's more common than people let on...and just relax and enjoy! It will get better

mmfisa · April 2010

thanks for the advice. ?lol, i will be trying it ASAP and keep you posted. ?i know it was a weird request, but i never asked to grow up so sheltered. ?lol. ?i guess it is just weird to me cuz it was never brought up?

smithleye · April 2010

I have the guide book you requested so if you want to see it just go to your private messages (PM)

Emily

mmfisa · April 2010

where do i find my private messages? ?i am lost on this website. ?lol.

mmfisa · April 2010

i def won't discredit you and i respect you for waiting to have sex. i will be getting that book soon. we've gotten comfortable with each other...lol, that's not the problem it's just the whole penis entering it's like i am afraid i'm going to be different after i do it. ya know? hmm, maybe i am just weird.

smithleye · April 2010

To get to your private messages just follow the information listed below.

When you go into your opening page for this website you?ll find a listing on the far left which reads like this:

community

all boards

my blog

my photos

my boards

Now scroll down to the one which reads 'my boards' ? click on ?Check Private Messages? then open the one you wish to read. I hope this helps!

~~Emily~~

misschloemae · May 2010

it was really painful for me everytime we did it for the first week or so, after then it finally began to be SOMEWHAT enjoyable. but now i love it and it's all happy times...push through.