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I yelled at my big brother! YAY!
Backstory - My brother is a top medical supply sales manager who travels the country often. He spends a lot of time in different cities training, selling, etc. Since he moved 30 minutes away and is always out of town on busines my sister and i rarely get to see or talk to him.
Yesterday.. I finally did it. I told off my big brother...in a tasteful/playful sort of way i guess if you can call it that. My sister and I have had issues that ever since he got this job and had his son he hasn't kept in touch. He never picks up the phone to call us, never comes over (he's been to my house once in 2 years and that was the day we moved in) and he makes no effort to be part of our family. i understand he's busy, and he we all are. He asked my mom if he was going to be Gio's godfather but yet he hasn't called me once all pregnancy to see how i am. The only time i have heard from him is to babysit my nephew or when he was fighting with my sister.
He seems to call and stop by my parents way more often then he talks to us...or he'll take my nephew to the farms by my parents house to see the cows and other farm animals.
So we're at the party yesterday and I start messing with him telling him that its quite apparent that farm animals mean more than his sisters/son's aunties and that he could pick up the phone and have us meet him since we're only 10 minutes away from the farms and also my parents house. he tries to throw in the "i'm so busy with work" or "I only stop by mommy and daddys for like 20 minutes and then i go home" i stop him dead in his tracks and tell him i dont want to hear that we dont care about his family or his son bc i would TOTALLY stop by my parents house even if for only a few minutes to see them since it really only takes me 10 minutes to drive over there. Oh i just went alllll off on him but i did it like he would do to me, in a joking/serious sort of way so that it wouldn't create tension but get the point across that it really angers me that he's never around or doesn't even call and attempt to meet up. I think i've been to his house enough times, he can come to me too!
I was PISSSEEEDD and i embarrassed him too bc i'm so done with it I finally had the kahunas to stand up to him and tell him that i'm busy too but i still make time for my family. I talk to my sister almost everyday.. and while i dont expect that from him i do expect that he make some sort of effort to be in our lives. But yeah, that felt good! Its no wonder my nephew wont even come to me, he barely even knows me and that makes me sad!
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