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My stupid brain.
I feel like something is wrong with me. I have been under so much stress recently I haven't wanted to have sex with my DH. I do WANT to want to have sex I just can't seem to calm myself down enough to make it happen.
For example... a few nights ago he was trying to make the moves and I was trying to let it happen and I had to ask him to stop because I wasn't even paying attention to what he was doing. I was thinking about everything that is going on in our lives.
How do I have the life I have and still be able to "be with" my DH? I want to have sex but my brain won't shut off long enough. 
Re: My stupid brain.
Seriously. Best advice ever.
I am working insane hours, and I really don't see that coming to an end any time soon. I swear, I'm consumed by my job. BUT. I still try to "schedule" (sounds awful, I know) time that I set aside for the H. And, when I have to, I down a glass or two of wine to help things along.
I'm a lurker, but I thought I'd chime in. Are you taking a BC pill?
If so, perhaps this is causing some anxiety. I was on one kind of pill that began to give me some anxiety problems. I basically had little sex drive and I was constantly worrying about all kinds of things.
It is slightly different from your situation, but it reminded me of what I experienced.
I'm a lurker, but I thought I'd chime in. Are you taking a BC pill?
- No I am not on BC. We are trying to not to try to get pregnant. So that is just one more thing on the mind.
And the only bad thing about the glass of wine advice is that I hate drinking. I try. I want to be able to go to dinner with a group of friends and order a glass of wine or some other type of drink I really just don't like the taste of it. Isn't that so odd...? lol.
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1-2 glasses of wine, I don't think that would be an issue. But what I have found to get your mind off work is to do other things such setting up date nights for hikes, movies, etc, which later on my lead to sex. Helps bring you down from the day at work, gives you time to relax. If your having sex min per month anyway, a few glasses a wine a month isn't going to hurt someone normallyl.
YES! This works wonders for me. Take time with your partner and tell the rest of the world to go shove itself under a rock. Even if it doesn't always lead to sex, it does help you relax and remind you how much you can enjoy each others' company. My husband has remarked that when I'm tense and stressed at work during the week my sex drive hits rock bottom, but as soon as I can unwind during the weekend and we actually get quality time together things get much better. The trick is to try and spread out your "unwinding" time.