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Wow... What A Crazy Couple Of Weeks... (Long)
I'm at the San Diego Airport right now ready to catch a plane to Cancun and I'm beyond bored! So I thought I'd fill you all in on how my crazy last 2 weeks have gone (and the crazy two weeks I have ahead).
First of all- my first cruise was amazing! I still prefer all-inclusive resorts, but cruising was fun, too. Ensenada was insane... and I'll leave it at that. 
What happens in Mexico stays in Mexico, right?
Also, DH and I have separated. This has been going on since August but we were trying to work things out. In October I created an exit strategy and said if things weren't better 6 months I was leaving. Things have not gotten better so I told DH last week that I would be leaving May 10th and not coming back. I'm moving to Wisconsin first until September and then from there I have to be close-ish to San Diego and LA because I have a bunch of weddings booked. But I want to move somewhere more affordable than California so I'm eyeing Nevada and Arizona. Suggestions are more than welcome! Anyway, long story short on this, DH has a drinking problem and he can also be mentally abusive to me. He's acknowledged this, but has done nothing to get help. When I told him I was leaving for good he dumped all the liquor in the house, but kept the beers. Then he went to stay at a friend's this past weekend and called me at 10PM drunk. He said he "only had 6-7 beers, tops!". Yeah... that's not how one quits drinking. So I'm getting gone and moving on before it gets worse (or just stays the same forever).
And now I am on my way to Cancun for a wedding and girl's weekend with my best friend. She recently left her fiance after five years (he was physically abusive) so she knows what I'm going through. She's now in another relationship, pregnant, and beyond happy so she's going to be giving me some encouragement. I get back on Sunday and on Monday I board the same cruise I was just on two weeks ago for yet another wedding! I seriously love wedding season.
So... yup! That's my crazy update. I gotta say, I thought the whole separation thing would depress me, but since making the announcement I've felt free and happy. I guess it's my mind's way of saying I've made the right decision. I do love Rocky and will always love pre-drinking problem Rocky. But to be honest, we should never have gotten married. His drinking problem started during out engagement and I should have put my foot down then but didn't because we'd already spent so much money on the wedding. Stupidest decision I've ever made, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger!
Thank you for listening to my rambling post. If you managed to make it through all that, you've earned yourself a cookie!
Re: Wow... What A Crazy Couple Of Weeks... (Long)
WOW! That was a crazy update!! Im sorry to hear about you and DH but Im glad that you are getting out of it now before it gets worse! The drinking is the reason why Bryan and I didn't get married so I totally understand where you are coming from. Im glad you feel free and probably all of this traveling is totally helping with you not being depressed
You are a crazy busy traveling girl and I am super jealous!! So you said you have a bunch of weddings booked in Cali...what do you do?
You did the right thing. You only get one precious life and you have to live it for you. Sadly he made his choice to chose drinking over your relationship and won't get help. I am proud of you!
Wow that is quite an update. I think being super busy is great timing for you right now. I know it must be so hard but you're making the right decision and good for you for being so strong. You should never settle so good for you for having the balls to follow through.
Good luck with wedding season and the move and I wish you nothing but the best.
No, actually, as we were getting off the boat this guy approached us and offered wrist band for all-you-can-drink booze at Mango, Mango for $20. We negotiated with him and got 7 for $100. At the end of the day the bar tender pointed out that our group of 9 (2 joined us later) drank 7 entire (big) bottles of Tequila! And we were only there for 4 hours!
So sorry to hear about your situation. But I'm glad that you now feel free, and I know how hard it must have been to make that decision, but it sounds like a bad situation for you.
Wow, about all the cruises!!!! Sounds like so much fun!!!
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Thank you! I actually feel great about it. I hadn't realized how depressed I've been lately until I made the decision and it was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. There is no need to stay in a bad relationship, even if you get married, I've realized. I even spoke to my church about it and they were very supportive of my decision which means a lot to me. It also helps that we never had a church wedding so technically they don't recognize it anyway.
Jaye I'm sorry to hear about you and your H. But I'm glad that you made the best decision for you.
And wowza on your wedding season. Crazy but fun crazy and it's probably good to be crazy busy right now.
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I'm sorry you've had to endure that, but it sounds like you're making the right decision. You just need to worry about yourself right now. I'm sure the girls weekend in Mexico will be a great way to unwind.
Take care!
I'm sorry about your separation, but it sounds like it truly is for the best. I'm glad that you have such clarity about it.
It sounds like your business is going well so that is awesome! I'm glad you are so busy - I'm so proud of our April 08 entrepreneurs!
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Wow, I'm so sorry that you're going through this Jaye, but I'm so proud and happy for you on taking the higher and better road for yourself. As Gerrie said, you only got one life to live. Just live your life as you should!!
That's a huge step but good luck with your new journey!
Where are you going to be moving to in WI
Wow, I agree, a crazy couple of weeks! I'm so sorry about the separation but it sounds like you're taking it well so far and you're keeping busy, and have plans, which definitely helps. All the cruises sound awesome!
And I also want to ask where you're moving to in WI? Maybe it's close to me!?
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