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Finally time to share this with you ladies...
So now that we're married and a little time has passed I finally feel like it's time to share with you what else was happening during the weeks leading up to the wedding! I posted on the bump tonight as well so in case anyone was lurking around I wanted to tell you ladies too!
FI (at the time, now he's DH) and I had been using contraception as we weren't ready for children. I'm on the pill and we even generally used condoms too. Around Dec we had sex without a condom thinking we'd be ok since I was on the pill, after that I should have gotten AF. I didn't, so I took a pg test and it came back negative. I did some research on my BCP and one of the side effects was missed periods. Things just didn't feel right so I took another test, also negative. DH thought I was crazy and told me not to be so paranoid. I took anouther test in January, also negative. For some reason something told me that it wasn't right. So I called to meet with my gyn and was tested there, results were also negative.
Valentine's Day weekend (which also happens to be my bday got what I thought was AF, finally! It was really heavy, lots of clotting, and excessive tissue. I did some research and started to think I was having a m/c. I called the gyn and went in. After an u/s she confimed that I had been pregnant and miscarried. I was so shocked and hurt, how could it be with all the tests being negative. She said that sometimes HCG levels are low and had basically no answers.
I had a rough week that week, but thought I was taking it all in stride, afterall we weren't trying and didn't want kids yet so I felt like I should be fine. Plus we were full speed ahead with the final wedding preparations and the excitement from that helped take it off my mind. We decided not to tell everyone until after the wedding as we didn't want to taint our most perfect day. (which it was!) We still have only told select friends and family, but tonight I need to just let it go!
Since the wedding, I've found myself depressed and getting increasingly severe anxiety so DH and I will be visiting with a therapist soon. He is working hard to convince me that even though it wasn't the plan, it's still normal for me to be upset. We're working it out!
TIA for your support! It already feels better to have it off my chest!
Re: Finally time to share this with you ladies...
At my FU appt the doctor says health wise I'm ok and that everything was testing normally. Thanks for asking though!
I've decided that the mental part is the tough part!
BFP #1 2/28/12- 3/3/12 CP at 4w3d
BFP #2 4/1/12- 5/7/12 Missed M/C at 8w4d (measuring 6w3d)
TTC on hold until December
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I'm very sorry for your loss. The loss of a child is always hard, regardless of the situation. The feelings that you are experiencing are in every way natural, so don't think something is wrong with you.
Talking to a therapist is a great idea. It will help you to express yourself and to relieve some emotions. You will be able to verbalize your thoughts and feelings to an unbiased third party and you will be amazed how much it will actually help you.
Again, I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I'm sending good vibes your way for you and your H!