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advice plz!

I just got off the phone with my sister and she is a complete mess right now.  She found on her husbands photobucket acct pics of his friends girlfriend.  Supposedly he was asked to upload them there so his friend could easily access them since he didn't know how to use photobucket or even have an account. His friend has fessed up and apologized, but my sister is at a total loss at what to do about it. The pictures have been in his acct well over 2 years and all he had to say was he forgot they were there, even though he has uploaded pics to it since. She feels disrespected and feels he has no respect for the other girl as well. BTW, she has no idea that anybody has seen the pics or that they were on the web.

 

Any advice appreciated.....

Re: advice plz!

  • Hmm. That's a tough one. How did he react when she confronted him? Does she think he's lying? I can totally tell when my husband is "trying" to lie. If nothing shady was going on there's no reason for him to act weird about the whole thing. 
  • At first he played stupid and then found out there was no way he could get out of it.  He isn't lying, but she feels disrespected over the whole ordeal while he thinks she should be over it because he apologized already.
  • If she 100% knows he is not lying then it really is not a big deal, in my opinion. I have a lot of pictures in my photobucket account. Pictures of friends, their boyfriends or husbands, whatever. My husband doesnt think twice about it because it is just a photo housing site...

    It seems funny to me that the husband denied it though, and tried to play dumb. I had a bf one time who was emailing girls off of the internet. I saw the emails in his account and confronted him about it. He tried to say his "friend" used his email account and they were his.. RRRRIIIIGGGGHHHHTTTT..  He even went as far as called his friend, put him on speaker phone and got him to say they were his, after telling his friend that i was upset because I saw them. His friend denied it at first then said OK yeah, it was me... ...  It's total guy code..  Eventually he admitted it to me that it was him.

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    At first he played stupid and then found out there was no way he could get out of it.  He isn't lying, but she feels disrespected over the whole ordeal while he thinks she should be over it because he apologized already.

     

    Well, if she believes him then it is better (and healthier) to try to forgive and forget. 

  • It kinda sounds like there is more going on there?  Other issues of trust in their relationship?  Are they young and just learning about intimacy and boundaries?

     I don't think I'd mind the pics--as Jess said--there can easily be lots of things on a photo storage site. I'm not cool with blatant lying though--although there is usually a reason for deception--not that it justifies it at all.

  • are they naked pics? Thats the only reason I think I would care... And yes, in that case, I'd be pissed.
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    are they naked pics? Thats the only reason I think I would care... And yes, in that case, I'd be pissed.
    Same here, I am so confused on why this is even an issue
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  • Oh crap! I totally forgot to put that they are naked pics....

     

    my bad.

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