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BR: drowsy but awake
How does this work? If I put him down when he's sleepy, he fusses and cries until I pick him up. I don't know how to get him to self-soothe to go to sleep. Suggestions?
Re: BR: drowsy but awake
I'm in the same boat....he won't go to sleep without me....which I am actually fine with...one day he won't need me:-(
ditto. I love our snuggle time. I can see changes already, often I just put him down in the co-sleeper and rub his hand or belly while we listen to quiet jazz music and DH and I both tell him stories in soothing voices, still fun but I miss the tiny baby that would lay on my tummy to fall asleep.
Jaime & Brent
Oahu, Hawaii | Sept. 9, 2005
My Food Blog - Good Eats 'n Sweet Treats
THIS, exactly.
1) Watch for tired cues like yawning or rubbing of the eyes. Baby Whisperer book says when you see a yawn, head for the bedroom. You should have them down before they hit the 3rd yawn.
2) Keep track of how LONG they have been awake. Every baby is different but I find that once Alexa has been awake for 2 hours or so (give or take) she will be ready for a nap. So at the 2-hour mark is when I am looking for yawns and rubbing of the eyes.
3) You want to put them down when they are in the "quiet alert" phase. When they have that "seven mile stare." If you wait too long and they are overtired, it becomes harder if not impossible to get them to go to sleep on their own.
4) Bedtime and/or naptime routines help. Babies like routine, it helps them know what is coming.
At night, we do dinner. Then bath. Then we look in the mirror on our way to the nursery. Then we put diaper on, sleep clothes, sleep sack. Then we read the "Going to Bed Book." Then Daddy kisses her goodnight, dims the light and puts on the sound machine as he leaves the room. Then I nurse her. Then when she is done, I giver her her paci. Then I put her down on her back in her crib and leave the room.
About 40% of the time, she'll roll over wiggle a little and go right to sleep. And 40% of the the time she'll crawl around her crib, sit up, crawl some more, play with her paci, find another paci and play with both of them, crawl some more, toss and turn and then finally curl up on her tummy with her butt in the air and go to sleep. (This is what she did tonight)
And about 20% of the time she'll cry whenever we try to put her down in her crib. This is usually when she is very tired. It sucks. I nurse her more. I rock her. I sing to her. One night I thought she was hungry? In these cases, I violate the "drowsey but awake" rule and do anything I can to get her to sleep and then put her down!!
All this said... EVERY baby is different. This is just what has worked for us. I recommend the Baby Whisperer book for more info on this. HTH!
Malia & Dave & Alexa
Happily married since 2-17-08! Three since 9-9-09!
Baby Blog
I commented below in the check-in thread but it's worth adding here... I would not worry about this with Jack yet, he's too young! Usually starting to put them down "drowsy but awake" is good to try around 3 months, give or take. HTH!
Malia & Dave & Alexa
Happily married since 2-17-08! Three since 9-9-09!
Baby Blog
haha. I've never heard that phrase before but it is SO true and totally describes what she looks like when she is tired!
me too... sometimes I can tell it's just not going to happen and I do whatever it takes to get her to sleep, whether it's nursing her or rocking her until she goes down.
but the other times...when she goes down on her own, it always makes me smile to know that at least i am doing one thing right
Jaime & Brent
Oahu, Hawaii | Sept. 9, 2005
My Food Blog - Good Eats 'n Sweet Treats
I'm in this camp. I am not worried that Libby will be off to college and unable to sleep w/out me LOL!
FWIW, I don't nurse her to sleep everytime and she does fall asleep for naps, etc. in various ways...drowsy...or rocked...etc. But at night, when I am ready for bed (usually around 11 p.m.) she comes to bed with us and nurses down...she will pull off and go to sleep...not fall asleep with the nipple in her mouth. I love our time together especially now that I am back to work and I figure when she's ready to sleep on her own we'll know.
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