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Strip Club Question
I used to be a very outgoing girl when I was younger and have told DH stories of how I used to be attracted to girls and even have had a few curious encounters.
DH and some of his firends went to a strip club the other week and I have been feeling neglected and unwanted ever since. Before everyone replies that I am insecure, I know it. I have gained some weight that I cannot seem to lose since it is due to medication. DH insists that I am still sexy and that the club was "harmless fun". Now DH wants me to come along with him based upon my prior stories and outgoing nature. I am not comfortable going and have told DH and he doesn't want to force me to do anything I do not want to do, but then I feel like I am no fun.
Any advice to put me at ease?
Re: Strip Club Question
Years ago, I went with my ex-bf and some other people to a strip club for a bachelor party. It was a lot of fun.
Something happened on that trip that might give you some thoughts. While we were there, I was approached by a guy who asked me to give his friend a lap dance. I was stunned and averred, stating that there were lots of beautiful women there who would be happy to give his friend a lap dance. He said "But you are more sexy than they are because you are a real woman." I laughed and said "But they are lovely and *naked*." He responded with "But you are more attractive because you have all your clothes on." I declined.
Cracked me up...guys to a club to see nekkid women and were more turned on by the chick who is dressed. Men are weird creatures!
LOL...that is hilarious! but didnt it make you feel good?!?!?! i wouldve cracked up and felt incredible inside and thought, just like you said, men are weird creatures
thats really cool actually! lol..i'd be so flattered
guys go to strip clubs but then talk sh!t about the strippers. the strippers dont even really care about the men, they care about taking their money! they dont want your husband, b/f, FI, they are working to make a buck.
I'd go but tell your H that the deal is if you're uncomfortable, you leave right away. Then kick back a drink before you go.
I went to a strip club once to learn how to give a striptease. Best sex ever afterward
It does sound like a fabulous opportunity for some really great sex, but if you are not comfortable, no one will be having any fun. You might consider going with an "opt-out any time" clause that lets you bail even if it is during the pre-drinking session before hand. On the other hand, if you really don't want to go, don't; just don't bring him down because you think it has something to do with whether or not he finds you attractive. Strip clubs are not about not finding YOU attractive. If he says he thinks you are sexy, then he does. You have to trust him. What other choice do you have?