June 2009 Weddings
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
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WR ? for those who had a DOC
What did you wish your DOC would have done differently?
What did they do that you were so impressed with?
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
Re: WR ? for those who had a DOC
I didn't have one, but I just wanted to say that it took me like 5 minutes to figure out what DOC was.
It is day of coordinator, right?
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BFP #2: 10.1.12 EDD: 6.11.12
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Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
Assuming you mean Day-of-Coordinator, we didn't hire one independently, but our venue assigned us one who helped out with ceremony & reception.
I wouldn't change anything, he was wonderful, really chill. He basically let us know when things were supposed to happen, but would check with us and cater the event schedule around what we wanted to do... like if we wanted to extend cockatil hour 5 or 10 mins, or chat with guests more before our first dance, etc. It was a pleasant surprise to have such a nice coordinator because our details planner with the venue was kind of a beeeotch.
We went out to a bar w/the wedding party after the wedding and he even came out to buy us a round - Very cool guy.
I have already forgotten all of my wedding lingo.
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We didnt have one either, and I still dont think it would have been necessary. We were able to get into our reception venue and the church on Friday and decorate so no issues there. The reception venue had inhouse catering and they were able to be there for the cake delivery and DJ set up. The church had a lady that they called the wedding coordinator who may have been the least helpful woman I've ever met. She didnt have a clue what was going on and really just liked to tell me what I couldnt do.
If we wouldn't have been able to have Friday to get everything set up however, I would have absolutely hired a DOC. There is no way I could have done it myself.
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We loved our DOC...she was well worth what we paid. She was helpful at the ceremony, but we really couldn't have done the reception without her because we were at a site where everything had to be set up from several different vendors. Since we ended up doing our own flowers, those had to be picked up and set up at the location too. The most amazing thing she did was get us heavily discounted lighting from a vendor at the last minute when our lanterns came with one light instead of the three we thought. She did mess up a few things too, like a) only using one bag of rose petals for throwing and for the monogram when we had about 10 bags, b) not being as forceful as she should've been with the dance floor company when they installed it incorrectly and refused to come fix it unless we paid an additional $500. She ended up calling DH, who had to get FIL to go and deal with the situation properly. It all worked out, but I'm infinitely glad I told her at the rehearsal to not call me with problems on the wedding day.
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I had a friend as my PA who happens to be a DOC professionaly as well and it was really hard. She did it for me as a friend but in a lot of ways she was too professional about it. She has been in and seen many weddings so some of the things she there were moments she felt she knew what was best for my wedding and wasn't focused on what I wanted.
The day before I had lunch scheduled with my mom and bridesmaids and I spent half of it on the phone with her going over times. I repeatedly told her that I was at lunch and tried to ignore the texts/calls but she would not stop. Then when it finally sunk in that I was at lunch, she wanted restaurant recs for her own lunch.
I had some issues getting my dress steamed because we had to travel and none of the dry cleaners in town would guarantee that it would be ready in time. So I left my rehersal dinner with her because she insisted that we go to my parents and pick up my dress and then go buy a steamer so she could steam my dress. I'm grateful she steamed it and we were planning on the steamer purchase anyways but by the time I got back, half of the people had left and I pretty much missed my own party.
I felt bad for her the day of because even though I kept telling her to relax, she was with friends, she was so focused on everything going right that I don't think she enjoyed it. I know it was her wanting the best for me and it was one of the reasons I picked her but I wanted her to have fun too.
Sorry that got a little long!
Leigha - yikes!
Thanks for the replies.
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
When our venue fell through and mailed back our deposit six months before the wedding, we hired a wedding planner. She ended up being more of a DOC because all of her suggestions for vendors were bad. My mom ended up finding our new venue and caterer, the new venue helped us find the rentals, etc. The only thing she (DOC) was good for was following up on people who didn't return my calls.
She refused to come to the rehearsal dinner. Showed up 3 hours before the wedding on wedding day. Was an unholy b!tch to me while I was getting ready, demanded payment. Went to set things up. Her assistant was actually nice and helpful. I had already made everything we needed and organized it, and the tent and tables and chairs were all set up from the rehearsal so she didn't actually have to do much there. She did a bad job directing the DJ on our processional, which is embarassing on the tape. And she stood at the end of the aisle the whole time so you can see her in every picture of me walking down the aisle. I couldn't wait to be rid of her.
And, the kicker? About three months ago my parents received a local magazine that they subscribe to. My DOC USED A PICTURE OF ME AS HER ADVERTISEMENT in this magazine!!!
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We had a DOC and I am very glad we did. My mom and I are both very detail-oriented, and my mom had put a lot of thought and effort into the details of our wedding. I did NOT want her worrying about anything the day of the wedding, and I knew she would "feel" like she should be if we didn't hire someone.
The DOC dealt with all of the vendors and things which was very nice. She was hired just for the reception- the church had another coordinator for the ceremony. I had very little contact with the DOC.
However, my mom was not very happy with our particular DOC. She came very highly recommended on the knot local boards, but around and after our wedding she had her 3rd child and bad reviews started to pour in. I just found out last night that while DH and I were outside taking pictures, she ordered my MOH to make me a plate and take it outside to me. I had never asked for food so early in the evening, and would not have wanted a plate of hot food while taking pictures outside. My mom was upset because she wasn't quite ready with the set up when guests arrived, and she also did not direct the placement of the appetizers properly. Those are all very minor things that I hardly noticed.
If doing it again, we would absolutely hire a DOC, but not THAT DOC.