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? about MIL's
On Friday I was talking to my friend Shannon, she also does my hair (she rocks!), and we were talking about MIL's. She was telling me that her MIL freaks out & gets really upset of Shannon doesn't call her to "check in" with her every week.
I never talk to my MIL unless it's in person. We don't chat on the phone, we don't exchange casual emails to chat, etc. If we need to talk to one another then we do, we just aren't like... going to shoot the sh!t together. We're both fine with that, also.
So what is your relationship like with your MIL? Do you talk all the time, is talking on the phone like pulling teeth for you both, or is it somewhere in the middle?
Re: ? about MIL's
If it were up to me... we'd never talk.
She prefers to talk to her son anyhow. So I get all the messages through him... like how we HAVE to do this or we HAVE to do that at the wedding. Yeah, no we don't HAVE to do anything lady...
Needless to say...she doesnt even respond to my emails, so I think i'm not so liked.
This. My MIL is BSC. I'll call her if I have to but mostly I don't want to chit chat with her.
I'm not really much of a phone person anyway. If I want to shoot the shiit, I'll call and ask you to go to dinner or grab a drink with me. I try to remember to "check-in" once a week with my own mother but the phone works both ways.
MIL and I never really talk. MIL and DH never really talk either...
Now - Step-MIL is a different story. We spend a lot of time with them, and if we want to get together or they have a question then SMIL will call me. (Because DH and FIL are useless when it comes to passing on important information) We don't call each other to chit chat or anything like that though... but if we didn't see them as often as we do then we might.
This but the other way around. MIL doesn't talk to H or I much. When I know there's something coming up that we should know about I have to call MIL to get the info. M&FIL are both bad about letting anyone know the details until literally an hour before and even then it's usually not right. So if they want us there, which she will complain if we're not, then she has to tell me everything in advance. Unlike her my weekends don't center around spending time with extended family for extended periods of time.
Wow, sorry about the vent.
My MIL has only called me a couple of times when she couldn't get a hold of DH. Other than that, we don't "shoot the sh*t" either. She used to call DH nearly every day, but it's cut back a lot since he's been really busy with work and finishing his graduate classes.
She lives about four hours away, and before we started dating DH used to visit once a month or more, but now it's only every couple of months (I had nothing to do with this and try to get him to visit more often, with me there or not). I think it bothers him that in the last 6 years that he's lived in St. Louis, she's NEVER come up to see him. It seems like a one-sided relationship sometimes, but I'm glad that I don't get too involved in it.
I guess I'm in the minority here, MIL and I get along great and I actually talk to her more than my own mother. MIL and I text sometimes, especially now with them coming to help us move and planning the wedding, its easier to do quick texts and then if she needs to talk more she'll call me. Usually I talk to her more than DH does, but I think it's just cause she knows that I'm the one with all the information and plans so it makes more sense to go directly to me instead of through DH. Both my ILs are really great and a lot of fun and they're helping us move for the 2nd time next week, so I'm definitely fortunate in that.
This. My FIL though sends me bad jokes in emails. It helps that they live in Texas. I talk more to my ex MIL that I do to the current one.
we don't call each other. once and a blue moon i will get an e-mail from her, but jake is on it too and i will reply.
i think the only time i get e-mails from her only is when she has a question about a gift she wants to get jake for christmas or something.
Only once in 5 years did MIL and I talk on the phone. She always calls DH's cell...I don't even know if she knows our home #. And, she's never even used a computer so we don't email.
But we do get along great...we have a lot in common. Shoot, we even share the same birthday. (This is awesome for DH...never again will he forget our bdays...but I guess if he ever does, he's in double-trouble!).
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