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Need opinions on planning a b-day party
DH is turning 40 in January & I want to do a party for him. My budget is limited b/c I'll be paying for the entire thing out of my personal spending money (he'd notice if it was from our joint account!). We live an hour away from almost anyone and besides, I really don't want the hassle of hosting a bunch of people. I need to find an affordable location for the party. I don't think I want to use a restaurant. We can use the free community room at DH's church in Cincy. It's a Methodist church & they don't allow alcohol. I don't drink much so it's not a big deal for me but I do feel like I'd be a bad host for not offering any alcohol. Our friends & family don't drink to excess but most will have a drink or two at parties. How would you feel if you went to an adult party with no alcohol?
Another thought- A close friend is turning 40 a month later. He and DH have been friends since HS & have some friends in common. His wife was my MOH. Some guests would know both, some would only know one guest of honor. Would a double party work? Would it be fun? Awkward?
Re: Need opinions on planning a b-day party
I don't drink either so I'd be cool with an adult party without alcohol. Maybe for the big drinkers they could go to a bar as an "after party" on their own dime?
I think a double party would be fun, too. It'd work out well if she was planning something anyway. Why not combine budgets and woman power. It's especially a great idea if a lot of the guests would overlap and if the boys are close, which sounds like both are true.
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I think the joint party depends on the guest list. If it's mostly mutual friends then I guess that would be okay. If there is a lot of family coming from either side I would say awkward. My gut reaction is "awkward."
I, personally, would find an alcohol-free adult party strange unless I knew the hosts had religious or other reasons for it. (Ex. I have been to Sountern Baptist wedding that had no alcohol or dancing.) I think the no-alcohol thing might be further complicated if you are trying to do the joint party. What if that family is a big drinking family?
I don't know - I guess all in all I vote no to joint party and no to alcohol free. I think you could find an inexpensive place that would allow you to bring a few kegs of beer and some bottles of wine from Costco or the Party Source.