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What's the deal?
We got married last July. We had an active sex life early on in our dating life. Somewhere along the way, preciesly 2 weeks after we got engaged, soon-to-be hubby got serious about his Catholicism and the sex was put on hold.
After we got married, we were back at it like rabbits. However something weird has started happening and I wanted to know if anyone else was familiar with this.
Hubby has started fixating on my wedding rings. We'll be talking and I'll notice him looking at them then he suddenly looks away. When we hold hands he will invariably begin to fidget with them. During sex he toys with them as well. Sometimes he'll side them off and on, other times he just fondles them (for lack of a better description).
I'm not saying this is something that I so much have a problem with as I'm just incredibly curious.
HELP! Anyone else have any experience with this?
Re: What's the deal?
It could be a lot of things. he could be looking at the rings and wishing he was able to afford to get you better ones?
or he could be thinking that the ring is a symbol of his commitment to you and how lucky he is to have you
or on the flip side of that he could be thinking "OMG I'm married and the ring is a symbol of the fact that I am stuck with you forever"
the bottom line is that you won't know unless you TALK TO HIM about it. We aren't mind readers.
good luck
Everyone is ignoring the weird part here: her H "fondles" and slides her ring on and off during sex.
OP: It's a strange activity to engage in during sex, but I suppose there are weirder things that he could be into besides your wedding ring. If I were you, I'd be insanely curious about this behavior. Have you asked him about it?
I'm wondering if this is actually true, he slides it on and off DURING sex, how does this happen? How slow and tender are they going at it? Maybe H and I are just too rough but I don't see either of us stopping so that he can fiddle with my ring, if it's AFTER sex sure I could see that, but I think the OP is exaggerating big time.
Since he wanted to wait for sex until you were married (once you got engaged), then maybe it's him reminding himself that it's ok to have sex with you because you're now married? Maybe he felt guilt prior to marriage and the rings are a security blanket of sorts to make him not feel guilt?
Who knows. The best thing to do would be to ask him about it (in a non confrontational way).
Wishing he could have gotten me better ones isn't an issue. I don't know how much he spent but the diamond is just over 1ct. He knows I didn't want anything more than that.
That's the one I'm likeing so far.He's real big on telling me how lucky he feels to have me.
He is lucky btw...lol
Without getting too graphic when we're in the missionary pose his fingers are interlaced with mine. He's usually VERY tender and slow about it.
And yeah, if we're playing "escaped prisoner", if he gets to them at all it's usually after the fact.