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nesting stage - anyone else
Finally found my way on to the nest. I am LOVING married life, but i am wishing that all i could do was stay home, clean, cook, (work out somewhere in there) and take care of my husband. Seriously, i am feeling like i just want to be taking care of him. I have always wanted to care for him of course, but now, it is hard to motivate to do much else and spending time with him seems more important than anything.
I imagine it will be FAR worse when we are pregnant, but is anyone else feeling this - this odd nesting. I am not craving the wedding (though i am craving the formal pics and videos that wont be here for 2 more weeks) but i am totally wishing that i was a 1950s housewife and caring for the home right now. I am sure it will pass as quitting my job is not really ion the cards right now
Re: nesting stage - anyone else
I am doing the whole housewife thing, but it's only temporary. Before we got married, I was a true single mom (no support or help from her biological father), working 45+ hours a week, planning a large wedding by myself, and my finace lived a 6 1/2 hour drive away. I'll be going back to school in the fall, so my husband decided the best thing is to just stay at home with our daughter for now so I don't get burned out on life again, and to help set everything up (we moved into his home, and it definitely needed some major organization!).
Don't get me wrong - I love being able to take care of our home and watch my daughter grow, but it will feel good to go back to work and have my own thing going on too.
Grass is always greener I guess!
I know what you mean. It's not that I want to be my hubby's servant but I do want to take care of him and our home and working on creating our life together is on the top of my list. Makes going to work everyday a little annoying when there's so many other things I'd rather be doing...but it was like that before we got married too
just now the things I would rather be doing are a little different. I'm also really distracted thinking about our upcoming honeymoon...I wish it would get here already!
This to an extent. I am domestic- I love cooking and taking care of my house. But there is no way I would wait on my H hand and foot! We just moved into a new place so I have been busy unpacking and decorating, but I would be doing that even if I was single! Don't get me wrong I do take care of my husband, but he is also competent enough to do his own dishes and laundry some times as well!
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I am living the life of a 1950s housewife - and I am loving every moment of it!
Since I've worked ever since I turned 18, it has been a bit of an adjustment, but I have never felt so fufilled! Both DH and I came from homes where our mothers were housewifes/mothers at home, so this just makes sense to us.
DH knows that I am absolutely willing to go out and get a job outside of the home, but he preferrs that I don't. He says he wants to provide for us and spoil me as much as he can (It helps that he is a Dr, and makes enough to provide for the both of us). His loving attitude only makes me work harder to keep our place beautiful and sparkling clean! And when he comes home at night we are both relaxed and enjoy the evening together. It makes me sad that not to many women nowdays get to experience this. Like I said, it is the most fufilling "job" I've ever had
but then again, everyone is different.
I love love love being married, but don't know that I want to be waiting on my husband hand and foot! DH is still is finishing school, thanks to the USMC for that delay, so right now I'm bringing home the bucks and it's sort of nice to be able to do so. Definitely provides a sense of accomplishment.
I would love to stay home though and play the 1950's role instead sometimes though. I wouldn't trade him for the world, but sometimes it's a challenge to try to motivate DH to help out with the housework. Working the way I do and doing all the home making would be to much! Perhaps once he gets through school we'll switch!
Right now, I'm finishing school, so I'm home two days a week. As soon as I graduate, it's back to the work force -- we could scrape by without another income, but none of the credit card debt would go away.
I would LOVE to be a stay at home mom, but hubby's not in a career where that will happen any time soon. So, I'm enjoying it while I can, knowing that even though there's never enough time now, it's going to be so much worse in a couple of months...
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This happened to someone I grew up with. Her father was a doctor and her mom stayed home. He got cancer and unfortunately died very quickly. Her mom needed to go back to work to support the family, after not working for very long, and the best job she could get was substitute teaching just because she hadn't been in the workforce for so long.
I always said that if for some reason H and I decided it was best for me to be at home (a long way down the line), I'd have to work at least PT because there is no way I could just stay at home all day every day.