March 2010 Weddings
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Gift Question
So I'm really not intending to sound gift grabby or anything because I'm not at all! I'm just curious how many of you did not receive gifts from your groomsmen? All our bridesmaids and one groomsman gave us gifts but the other 6 groomsmen did not. Is this just a guy thing?
Re: Gift Question
2 out of 3 GM gave gifts...the one who didn't flew all the way out from the west coast, so I look at his presence as a gift.
we have about 5 guests who attended who did not give gifts though. that was very weird.
Um...all the Bridesmaids gave shower gifts, but none gave wedding gifts. (They DID buy their dresses and traveled to the wedding...I didn't expect gifts from them.)
None of the groomsmen bought gifts. 3 out of 4 are just-out-of-college single guys...but even the married guy who came with his wife didn't. Like I said before, they all paid for their tuxes, and a couple for hotel rooms and travel....so I consider their presence at our wedding our gift.
We had several people (including some family) who were at the wedding and reception but didn't give gifts. That surprised me simply because of who it was.
One of my best friends who was a bridesmaid didn't give a gift -- and she didn't have to pay for the dress, hair, or any of that stuff. The other bridesmaids/groomsmen who didn't give gifts were all siblings so I didn't give a second thought to that.
By the same token, though, there were people who gave really generous gifts that I know couldn't actually afford to -- those are the ones getting incredibly heart felt thank you's.
We had one GM give a monetary gift and one give a gift specifically for H. IL's gave us a present and included BIL's (BM) name on it. And then we didn't receive anything from the last GM. I don't really care if he did or didn't but my concern now is H and I are both in his wedding next year and they are having an engagement party next month for the wedding. So it's like do we give a gift or not (especially since we need to travel for it).
I think we may have had one or two guests not give a gift. But we don't know for sure since we received one card that no one signed their name in the card (just wrote 'Mazel Tov') and it was cash not a check. So I guess now we're waiting for someone to mention something about not receiving a TY note so we can figure out who it was.
All the BM's got us gifts, and none of the GM did. However, they are single guys and H told them not to get us anything. I didn't mind though, they worked hard for us over the weekend.
We did get a surprise gift from a guest that couldn't make it bc they had just had premature twins. They lost one of them and the other is still very ill so the fact that they sent a gift blew me away!
I had 5 out of 7 BMs and 4 out of 7 GMs including my 16 year old bother who gave us his own cash! I didn't expect gifts from our BP as almost all of them have to travel!
We also had some guests not give guests, a few didn't surprise me but a few definitely did! But as pp have said other gifts were more generous than we could have ever expected.
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We had a few guests not give us gifts. We also got some seriously interesting gifts from people I would not have expected.
Two of our four BP didn't give gifts - my dad and brother. My dad had previously given us a gift toward the wedding and my brother, well... I had to buy and bring his attire the day of the wedding because I wasn't sure if he was actually going to show up.
0/3 groomsmen gave us gifts.. 3/3 bridesmaids gave gift and a bunch of my husband's friends came and didn't give gifts.
kind of irritating. None of them had to travel. Nobody wore tuxs (50's rock n' roll them, nothing was required but a pair of jeans!) they didn't even have to help with anything. All they had to do was come to the wedding and go to his bachelor party. they didn't even have to plan that!
we had a lot of people there and not a lot of gifts. it literally took us 10 minutes to go through everything and write down who gave us what.
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We had a GM drop out two weeks before, he didn't get a gift, and 1 of the BM's did not give a gift either. Honestly, our entire wedding party had to travel at least 6 hours, so we did not expect anything from them.
We sort of had the situation as other PP, where some people gave very generous gifts that were not expected, so we feel pretty fortunate.
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*shrug* we gots gifts from everyone, wedding party included.
And not sounding bitchy but I have to say I was really pissed at some of my family members. I've always made a BIG effort to get to whatever they had going on ..weddings, baby showers, christenings, etc. AND have always been very generous with gifts. Now I know its not supposed to be about THE GIFT but lets face it, sometimes it is. For two of my cousins and their families to attend it cost us $900. These are cousins that I grew up with as well. After the rehearsal I came home to a box at the door containing the coffee pot that goes with my china set. Cost a whopping $200. They split the cost between them. Nice. Oh and I should add that $400 of their dinner went down the drain b/c the day before I got an email (apprently I wasn't worthy of a phone call) saying they couldn't make it.