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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Flame Free Friday Facebook Poll
Given all the FB talk on the other board, I thought this pet peeve poll might be fun. This started on my knitting forum and it got some crazy responses. So what kind of things have you learned about your friends via their status updates that you wish you didn't know?
Dear FB friends, I do NOT need to know about...
... how great your DH/BF is in bed, especially a graphic description thereof.
.... how many nails or boards you need for your Farmville barn or whatever. I can hide the annoying application, and I will hide people that update their status with that crap.
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.....how much you hate our current President, your boss, your best friend, etc.
Eww gross...really people talk about their husbands in bed?!
I love kids. I want one desperately, but really I do not want to hear about your kid potty training for the first time. Poop and other bodily functions should be banned from facebook.
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...how proudly you like to wear your homophobia/xenophobia/ignorance on your sleeve
...what cryptic ridiculous lyrics best describe your feelings about a situation that you refuse to directly identify until at least 3 people comment on your status asking you what you're talking about. Ooooh, you're so ~*mysterious*~
...how yours is a love that has never been loved before and the rest of us plebeians will just never understand its majesty. It makes me want to submit your hokey butt to stfumarrieds.com
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... your political views/opinions. if you share them frequently, i will definitely hide you from my feed. regardless of whether i agree or disagree with your views
I try to keep my Facebook updates clean for several obvious reasons. Respect, privacy, etc ...
I feel like every comment I make, someone has to make it sound like I'm being dirty. I say I'm excited my husband is home, and people make comments about us getting it on.
It's funny sometimes, but I'm seriously getting fed up with every single status update being turned into something dirty. Yes, I have an active sex life. No, I'm not going to share it with you. Thanks!
...how angry you are at your spouse for whatever they did or did not do. Please don't air your dirty laundry online.
...about your bodily functions or those of your children
Yes! Vaguebooking. I hate that so much. It's even worse when it's not a lyric but their own cryptic crap: "You said that thing and I believed that thing and now that thing is gone..." and then they get all coy when someone asks what the hell they're talking about.
...how much you hate your ex and your expletive-filled tirades against him.
...your every single thought or movement. There should be a limit to how many updates a person can have each day!
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I don't mind the political posts because it's interesting what knowledge can be gained on both sides as long as you have people that are willing to talk and debate about it in a positive manner. And I do appreciate knowing my friends political views and links because I think it helps people to openly talk about things, especially if there is a bias in the media (i.e. for me... stem cells: adult vs. embryonic)
Not a fan of bodily updates, specifically the "size of the gargantuan poo I just took" or "gotta pee" or anything related to body function and children (milk supply, their first poop with photos, wet diapers, etc). I deal with it because a lot of my friends have kiddos, Im just not particularly a fan of those posts. That being said, I'm not sure that in that position I wouldn't post the same thing.
The fact that my brother also makes whatever comment he can to my posts sexual. Which is disturbing. And photos my second cousin posts of her in skimpy clothes (she's 14 and lives in northern Canada so how she's not freezing her butt off in most of the snow photos, I dunno) or that her mom is ok with them.
Farmville or anyone asking me to help with their mafia wars etc. I give everyone a learning curve on FB just as I had. I was into applications at first. But after 6 months and Im still getting "help me with bessie the cow" or whatnot... I press ignore.
(In general, I like to be nosy and see what people are up to and very little bothers me on FB. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, own feelings and if some are more mushy, or more political, or more ranting... my thought is everyone needs to get it out from time to time.)
hope you're not my friend on FB then! I have updated about a few noses wiped this week. I'm friends w/ a LOT of moms, so I figure it's good for some commiseration.
I'm in the I don't need to hear how you hate the president or how mushy you are with your kids/husband. Ick.
lol! noses are one thing, but frequent poo updates are completely another. though I know my perspective will completely change in about 6 months.
Music lyrics as frequent updates "bc you like the song". When one nestie did lyrics all day it was funny. Having friends who post random lyrics to try to get people to guess them is not.
And don't c&p inspirational quotes. There's a reason you get them in your e-mail inbox and I don't.
So I was recently "friended" by my 20 year-old cousin and his slightly younger sister.
Cousin apparently got engaged recently, and needs to tell the FB world how much he loves his fiance throughout the day. He alternates those updates with random phrases that I am guessing may be song lyrics, but I don't recognize the song. Sample (c&p): "This Town Is No Good So Drive Me Far Away. These People Drag Me Down So When There All Gone I Lift Myself Back Up. So Shut Up And Drive Me Far Away. There Hate Makes My Head Fill Up With Anger So Knock Me Out." (sigh)
Evidently, FB thinks that because I am friends with him and his sister, I might also want to be friends with their douche-y friends. How do I know their friends are douche-y? Their profile photos are photos of their own naked torsos.
So far I haven't declined any high school classmates who send me a friend request. And now I know that one fella will post a daily bible verse + his analysis, and another is apparently gay and enjoys posting daily photos of famous naked (or nearly naked) dudes + his analysis.
I think my FB home page needs more clothes, less analysis.
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Do people really talk about their sex life in their statuses? --- Now that is creepy!
I honestly have no qualms about FB statuses. Really, just read 'em or don't, it's not a big deal. I don't mind reading about political views, music lyrics (I do this), or even milestones like pottying.
But then I read this ....
.... and I totally agree with joyco... it does annoy me to read spoilers, but luckily there hasn't been any spoilers in a while on my news feed!
I have similar feelings about a lot of these topics - no politics, kid poop, Vaguebooking (I have one friend who is HORRIBLE about this and hers are always vaguely sexual, like she is talking to one person in particular, but everyone can see it).
I have one friend that I love dearly, but he posts his to-do list every day. And every day, people respond "Wow, you have a lot on your plate!". I get it. You are busy.
I also don't care for generic status updates that use tropes and are just kind of Debbie Downer. Yes, TGIF, indeed. Getting a case of the Mondays is not fun. Yes, you took the road less traveled and that has made all the difference. It's lovely that you like to dance as if no one is watching. I just find these unoriginal.
I was going to make a joke about this, but then I felt creepy since apparently all the nekid people on your FB are either teenagers or gay men. I think what you really mean is more nekid straight men, right?!
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OMG this! Especially because you know they do the same thing in actual face to face conversations, and that drives me absolutely nuts.
Me: Boy, I had a busy day. I think I'll go home and--
Captain Incredible: OMG I HAD A BUSY DAY TOO I HAD TO GO TO THE BANK AND THE STORE AND THE GYM AND THE PARK AND MEXICO AND FIJI AND POLAND. AND THEN I REMEMBERED THAT I ALSO HAD INVENT A NEW ICE CREAM, CURE MALARIA, AND KNIT SWEATERS FOR EVERY BABY BUNNY IN THE WORLD.
Me: ...
Captain Incredible: (waiting on pins and needles with a pained expression on their face for me to absolutely explode with shock)
Me: >:(
the end.
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I am very, very guilty of this.
But I LOVE doing it! Plus most of the time there are lots of people who are my FB friends that know what I'm describing through song. It's my way of bitching or talking about something without actually saying it. My own personal Post Secret, so to speak. 
And I'm sorry Chicklit, that you have to put up with it as my FB friend! I'm sure you have me hidden by now though; I've done lots of lyrics lately.
Did my I love you to my DH today annoy you?
Anything that ends in "you know who you are"
Also, I have one friend whose status every day is a food journal. Irritating to say the least.
This! If I hid or defriended for every political post I'd have no friends. Due to the nature of my job most of my close friends are comfortable with politics and our ideologies vary greatly, so discussions and friendly debates occur frequently. However, I refuse to engage when they are hateful, biased in an overtly extreme direction or full of media talking points. That wouldn't be discussion, it would be wrestling with a pig, no matter what the political ideology. Right now, I'm not very open-minded about the "praying for the death of the President" type posts.
I've hidden people for things like suggesting that 1) I poisoned my hungry child and should have had a prescription for the formula I fed him when BF'ing didn't work out, and 2) I should be turned over to CPS for "mutilating" him by having him circumcised. (I would have dropped her altogether, but we have mutual friends and I'm trying to play nice.)
I don't understand the constant, day-in/day-out pity-pot posters who aren't being ironic when they post about how incredibly dreary and full of suffering their lives are. Every one needs a hug every now and then, but come on , when you've been posting the same old woe-is-me-no-one-has-it-as-hard-as-me crap on FB for over a year, you might want to consider getting off the internets and doing something about your sh!t.
This! I can't stand it when people only use their status updates to complain about work/school/so/life constantly!! If it's that bad, get off facebook and do something about it!