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Love you and miss you Dad
Today is the 10th anniversary of my dad's death. I miss him a lot. He wasn't famous or wealthy or even college educated but he was the best dad a person could ask for.(something I wish every child could say or feel about their dad) I am the baby of the family and the only girl. He is the one who named me. We shared a very special bond. I can truly say there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about him even if it is only for the briefest second.
I know a lot of you girls have lost a parent and have gone through similar paths of grieving and loss. It never is easy but life goes on doesn't it?
For me I compare the pain of losing someone you love to that of a large gashing wound. At first it is so raw and ugly and terribly painful almost paralyzing sometimes. As it heals which can take a long time, it will be very sensitive and tender. A small bump can knock the wound open again and that raw pain comes back. Over time though it does heal and becomes less painful and you don't always notice it is there. You are left with a scar as a reminder though and even though the wound is healed that scar if bumped just the right way can be a little more painful at times than others. But for the most part it is just there as a reminder.
Thanks for letting me ramble. I need to go get ready because we have our final IUI this morning. Life's funny isn't it. On an anniversary of a death we are trying to get a new life going. It seems right in the world today.
Fingers crossed for baby success for us if you don't mind.
Re: Love you and miss you Dad
...and many Novembie Vibes that your IUI works! That would be a great 'new' way to remember the day!
Good Luck with the IUI today!
I totally agree about the "gaping wound" analogy. Sorry today is a sad day - but hopefully it becomes a happy day to remeber too.
TTC #1 13 cycles, CP 6/09, TTC #2 1 cycle
CDing, EP'd for 13 months for #1, BFing for #2
Pregnancy Hypertension - inductions at 39w, I grow big babies: DD was 9 pounds 1 ounce 22 inches, DS was 11 pounds even 22 inches - both vaginal deliveries
There are some other girls on the board who share in the one door opens, another opens, life being a full circle idea. It is truly amazing how that works.
And you are very right....no matter how much time has gone by, that wound is still there. I lost my mother 9 years ago and it still hits me every day, some worse than others but every single day I think of her.
I'm thinking of you sweetheart, I hope that this IUI is succesfull. I know what a killer this 2ww will be for you, lean on us as much as you need honey.
Big hugs from Baton Rouge.
This!! and great analogy! It is very true. This year will be 16 years since my dad passed and that is a great way to compare it!