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Real Women Have Curves?
I noticed this group on FB 'Real Women Have Curves and not the body of a 12 year old'.
I definitely have curves, no where NEAR a 12 year old's body lol. Hell, I didn't even have a 12 year old's body when I WAS 12 years old.
However, the title just bugs.
I know quite a few women, especially my younger sister, who CAN'T put on weight (yeah, I know...beeetches lol) even if they scoffed hamburgers every day.
Who's to say they aren't real women just because their bodies are naturally tiny and/or thin? Don't women come in all shapes and sizes?
My sister constantly has people telling her she needs to get a good meal into her or calling her 'anorexic' and she really hates it and is uncomfortable with the fact that people feel free to comment on her body. It's strange that commenting on women with a few curves here and there is a 'no-no' but thin girls are fair game.
Funnily enough, out of my sister and I, I was the one who once had an eating disorder.
Does anyone here have a naturally thin build? I just find myself wishing we could start moving beyond judging people on their bodies, period.
Re: Real Women Have Curves?
I agree 100%. We are all unique. You are a real woman at any size.
I don't know how it is in different cultures, but in the US the feeling is that it is okay to tell someone that they are thin or small. I felt so bad for my neighbor. She is petite and beautiful. She said that it really hurt her feelings when she was pregnant and people said, "You can't be __ weeks/months along. You are so tiny." She said it made her worry that there was something wrong with her baby. Isn't that terrible?
Newlyweds since 2007
I think they just use that title because they're curvy and the group is tailored towards curvier women so they're trying to attract that type of woman. And there's probably some slight judgment (or bitterness or disagreement) in that title towards women who are stick skinny and/or women who try to be stick skinny, especially since being stick skinny is kind of "in" these days.
I don't have a naturally thin build but when I was growing up, I always kinda wished I did. Even though sometimes I still wish I were thinner, I'm ultimately comfortable with who I am and what my body is. And as long as I feel healthy and get to enjoy my favorite foods, I'm a happy camper. This whole judging others thing (whether it be based on bodies or anything else, for all that matters) is just immature and silly.
Yeah, I've heard a few women now comment that, when they were pregnant, it'd bother them to get the 'you're too tiny to be 'X' months pregnant..." etc. There's so many things to stress about during pregnancy, belly size shouldn't be one of them.
I really love the Dove campaigns they run these days, with women of all shapes and sizes being featured. LOVE them. It's about time women were proudly protrayed in their natural state like that, without being a novelty (novelty in the sense of when fashion designers decide to 'allow' curvier women strut down the catwalk for one fashion show in order to get more media coverage).
I just think that maybe 'Curvy and proud of my body' or something , as a group title would've been better.
I used to love the Dove commercials until I learned that the company that made the commercial is the same company that does all those horrible Axe ones.
Now I can't look at the former without thinking of the latter. It feels much less empowering now.
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