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Ugh
My husband is now getting on my nerves. Sorry for the double vent today but this whole, me changing my eating habits is making people drive me the funk up a wall. I just had a whole conversation with him telling me he wants a grocery list written out on what exactly I'm going to eat because now I just "jacked our grocery bill up" because "this kind of food costs more and now you won't be able to go out to eat, or if you do it will be a pain in the azz and I need to figure out if we'll be able to afford this new lifestyle change" and blah blah blah. I'm really sick of all of this, between my future BIL and now my DH I just want to tell everyone to STFU. M thinks I need to announce to the world that I will no longer be eating dairy or meat so everyone will know. WTF?! He seems to think because he "knows other people at work" who eat this way that he's suddenly an expert, FU I say. Because I couldn't (well it's more like I wouldn't because I was trying to make a point) tell him right off the bat a full days worth of meals I would eat, he doesn't think I will eat at all, he says he thinks I need to do more "research" into it because I "don't know enough about it" before I just go and do it.
I really don't understand what the big flucking deal is or why I should have to explain myself to every flucking person that asks me about it.
Re: Ugh
It's okay, I got what you meant, no worries!
Most definitely!!! AND... if he eats what you eat, not only will both of you gt healthier, but it will cost less to shop for the same stuff vs. diff things for each of you...
ITA. Dude, M, get off the junk food is cheaper wagon. Splurging now we'll mean less cost in healthcare later.
From the little bit that we have discussed about M, he is just afraid that the changes you are making are outside his sphere of control.
I want a tattoo - No, but if you want to do something to your body, you can have make-up instead because its temporary
I want to be a vegetarian - I can't think of an instead so I am going to argue with you to make you change your mind
Classic control. He's afraid that you are changing who you are. And changing who you are is a threat to me because it means you might get better than you are now and then change our relationship dynamic, too, or leave me.
Just let him have his freak out and do you. You might have to reassure him that it doesn't mean you're going anywhere.
BTW - I got the "Veggie" at Quiznos today...YUM.
He is paranoid that this is going to happen, or so he admitted to me over dinner; because 3 guys at work have had this happen to them (their wives lost a ton of weight and either A) cheated on them or
straight up left them for younger/"hotter" men. I told him that I would never do that to him. He said he believed me but he was scared. He said that, although he doesn't "believe' in one being a vegan or vegetarian, that he would support me. Then he continued to "joke" with me by saying "OMG, babe, do you realize you won't be able to eat cheesecake anymore? That's like a staple in the Sheri menu". So far he's over his little freak out and says he feels bad about his reaction earlier. He also says he realizes in the LONG run, it won't cost us more, but the initial part of it all will (as far as getting ingredients to cook with, etc, like spices and such, he also wants me to get a Vegan cookbook so I have something to fall back on when I need ideas). We shall see.
He also seems to think I'm going to "look down on him for eating meat". I corrected him on that too.
Because he loves you he needs to support you 100%. Your not asking for much . . . all you want to do is make a positive change that will hopefully dramatically impact your health in a positive way.
Besides, tell him if you lose some weight you'll feel like sexy time more often!
Thats soooo great that he is going to support you! I can totally see why he reacted that way, now knowing that he has seen this happen to 3 friends... but he should know you better then that!
Good luck lady!