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Annoyed with my mom
So I told my mom yesterday that I'm pregnant. She said she had a feeling I was pregnant and was happy, but not overly excited. My mom isn't an overly excited person anyways. We went out to dinner and we were talking about baby names. I said our boy will be Jack. She insisted his name should be Jackson. I said I don't like that name and just want him to be Jack. Then she said people will think his name is John if I don't name him Jackson. I said those people can think what they want. My kids name is going to be Jack. There's plenty of kids named Jack out there and who cares what people think? Then I mentioned my girl names and said Caroline was my first choice. She then laughed and said "You naming her after Caroline on Little House on the Prairie?" WTF? I've never even seen that show and why would I name her after that? I told her that. I said we would call her Carrie and she said "Oh, like Carrie on Sex and the City?" Again, WTF? I let her comments slide off my back, but I'm still really annoyed today. She had something to say about every name I mentioned. Why does she have to interject her opinion on my kids name? It's not her baby... I'm wondering if I should say somethiing to her? I value her opinion, but don't need her little snide comments about our choices for the next eight months. Note: I'm super close to my mom, so it's not like we have a distant relationship or get into arguments.
WWA08 do??
Re: Annoyed with my mom
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Ugh, the lovely comment to everything convo. If it were me and my mom, I would bite back with sarcastic, semi-joking responses to give a slight warning (sounds like I would do an animal warning growl, lol, not quite though)
But, since you are close with her, I'd say let yourself calm for a day or two, then just openly discuss what you felt during that conversation, and that you'd appreciate support and not total opposition for everything you express that you have planned for your baby. I hope you're able to talk it out and it's smooth sailing from here on out!
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Alicia, I would let the comments slide...don't get too worked up over it.
This. Other than you girls no one knew what Loela's name was going to be, for that reason. People (even moms- should keep their comments to themselves)
Or to be a total B (and not saying there is anything is wrong with your name) If she says anything else about your potential names, I would say " And you think Alicia is any better?" unless it holds deep meaning then bite your tongue
This is such a funny issue- I wanted to name Liam Jack at first- but I was going to name him John with the nickname Jack (Michael's dad and bro are both John, but not nicknamed Jack). Michael's mom (who is divorced from FIL) made a comment that the family has too many Johns already, so we couldn't name him John.
1. As if this decision has anything to do with her.
2. As if it wouldn't be nice for us to name our child in honor of his gpa, uncle (actually her own brother is John too!).
This was the last conversation we had about names. Well, SHE tried to bring up the conversation for the whole pregnancy. We shot her down again and again. She refused to believe the truth, which was that we truly waited until we "met" Liam to name him.
If there is a #2, there will be no discussion of names again. Period. I am debating whether we would find out the sex the second time too- but if we do, we aren't telling either.
I agree with Jen that you should tell her now that it is your decision and you don't want input.
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This is exactly what I was wondering!! Congrats!
Alicia, if it is bothering you that much then I would definitely say something to her and if she wants to keep on then no more baby name talk!!
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Ditto...I hate the conflicting meanings of names to other people. If it's a name that you love, then use it.
Moms will be moms and interject their opinion even if it's not wanted or warranted. I'm sorry she's not overly excited, but hopefully she'll get that way.
If you want to say something now is the time because the longer it goes on the worse it's going to be. Just be polite and say while I value your opinion if you don't like our choice just remember that this is our child and any and all decisions will be made by Andrew and myself. Short, sweet, and too the point.
And I'm sorry she's opinionated about the names. I think Jack's a fine name and I know people with that name and they might actually be named Jackson but I donno, but I will say I never met a Jack and wondered if his name was John. I think Caroline is a beautiful name and it's just fine to be named after LHOTP because I'm named after the baby (Carrie Ann) and I for one love my name no matter where it comes from (thought people think I get my name from the song)
I think both of those names are beautiful.
You have a long ways to go, so you may even change your mind. Either way, I would totally keep names to myself too. Don't people always give unsolicited advice for anything and everything? I imagine it feels way worse when it's about your own child but either remind yourself to block it out, or don't bring up the topic with people who will assert their opinions on everything. Hard thing to do with Mom, I know.