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Irrational fear...right?
We have had LENGTHY discussions about having another child. Pretty much my feeling at this point is that there is no way we can have two children in our current house, so any thought of a #2 would be dependent on us moving.
But that isn't my fear- my fear is that I won't be able to have the same kind of love that I have for Liam for another child. I just can't imagine how I can divide my attention between two children, much less give the TLC to two at the same time. L is such a happy, energetic little guy, and he loves one-on-one time with us. I don't want to take away from his time with us, but at the same time, I know that having a sibling could be beneficial to him in the long run.
Do any of the other mommies feel the same way? I know people say that they love all their children equally and endlessly, but I really don't want to find out it isn't true.
Am I crazy for thinking this way?
Re: Irrational fear...right?
i've heard this from my friends that have 2, and they all say that once the baby comes, it is amazing how much love your heart can feel. and its totally different towards your second, but still just as deep.
i didn't understand what they were saying until i had 1 child. now i get the fear...how could i love another little baby like i do josie? she is so special and perfect and our first. but i'm hoping that they are all telling the truth and #2 is just as awesome!
I really hope that this will be true for me, too. I know my parents have the two of us, and they love us... but what if I really don't feel like I have the same connection with #2? What if Liam has resentment?
Ugh. I'm sure he will be fine, but does this hesitation mean I'm not ready?
Yeah it makes me want to cry too. I'm sure that you are right- Liam will be fine, and he will be a great big brother. And will have fits and battles of wills and everything too- but it will be fine.... right?
I just had my first but a second has already crossed my mind, lol. Were definitely not ready for another yet but I feel the same way. It's hard to believe I could love another child like I do this one. I know it's possible though.
Right! I am glad you brought this up...it is helpful knowing that we are all having similar feelings! Everything will be a-okay...and we will have so much love in our lives with all these babies, we will not know what to do with ourselves!!!!