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There's going to be a beatdown here tonight...
I'm in a hotel with my son and husband for 10 days because my husband has been sent here for work. There are limited play opportunities for my son in a hotel room and its been raining nearly every day so we're trapped inside. I just let him entertain himself by dismantling our suitcase and he pulled out a canister of chewing tobacco from one of the inside pockets. This is the suitcase my husband uses whenever he goes away.
He chewed tobacco when we met and he said he wanted to quit and did immediately after we started dating. He knows this is going to be a HUGE deal.
Any suggestions of how to confront him when he gets home at 2:00? Bonus points for creativity. I'm pissed and want to make a point. Since our son was the one who found it I'm thinking of giving the (emptied) container to him and letting him just play with it until my husband notices. Or offering our son some options for lunch and throwing chewing tobacco in there.
Re: There's going to be a beatdown here tonight...
Thanks for understanding
Nope, we're pretty far from home, about 10 hours. I don't think I'll be leaving early, although the thought is tempting.
The thing that pisses me off the most (aside from the fact that my son could have consumed some if I wasn't watching) is that we have talked about how disgusting smoking and chewing tobacco is many times, and he always takes the stance that he is so glad he quit and he can't believe he did it in the first place. WTF?
I agree about not being passive aggressive about it and not bringing your son into it.
What are the chances that it is an old container from before he quit?
I wouldn't say anything. I would throw it away. I agree that it's a nasty habit and can cause alot of health issues, but the issue here (IMHO) is that he lied, not that he's chewing again. Plus, who knows how often he actually does it.
He'll know you found it when he can't find it. If he asks, or brings it up, I would simply explain calmly why you are opposed. The rest is up to him.
I would put it somewhere that he has to see it and know you saw it and say nothing. Let him worry. Bring it up when DS can't hear the conversation, so when you get home?
Then say calmly "So, I'm hoping there's a really good explanation for what DS found in your suitcase. Better then 'It's not mine I was holding it for a friend and forgot about it'"
This.
That's exactly what I did, although by accident. He came home from work early and I was at the store. He called me when he saw it.
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