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(Taken from MM)-What do you wish you would have known 10 yrs ago...
(cause it sounded neat!)
What do you wish you would have known 10 yrs ago... ?
Re: (Taken from MM)-What do you wish you would have known 10 yrs ago...
Ok, since I was in my late 20's at that time (some of you were prob in middle school...)...
I wish I would have taken better care of myself back then... exercised and ate better...
figured out who I was earlier in life-with my career, etc...
...and saved $$$!
...not take sh!t from those I dated back then--BIG loser period in my life!
so when I was 17/18...
I wish I would have taken more of an interest in my health and well-being, and actually stuck to my goals then so I wouldn't have had to deal with problems for so long.
Ten years ago I was a senior in high school ready to go to college.
I wish I would have known that life goes by way too fast and I've should have appreciate my college years more because before you know it you're thrown out in the work to fed for yourself.
(I was 18)
I wish I would have known that even after all my hard work in HS and college and taking challenging courses - that it wouldn't help me in 2010. I wish I would have know that I could hve just "gotten by" in school and still be at the same place I am today (laid off).
I would have had a lot more fun.
I wish I would have known that my weight would get out of control and by 2010 I would be disgusted with my weight (pregnant or not). I wish I would have realized that I needed to take better control of that and that weighing 240 at 18 years old was NOT acceptable...even if my family said I was beautiful.
TTC #1 13 cycles, CP 6/09, TTC #2 1 cycle
CDing, EP'd for 13 months for #1, BFing for #2
Pregnancy Hypertension - inductions at 39w, I grow big babies: DD was 9 pounds 1 ounce 22 inches, DS was 11 pounds even 22 inches - both vaginal deliveries
17/18 - I would've told myself that I am really freaking awesome so get over being insecure and embrace it. You don't have to look good all the time so don't worry about having an occasional bad hair or skin day. That's not who you are. And again - you're awesome.
- I would have shoved myself into physical therapy before there was a problem so I wouldn't have to spend my 20's in constant pain.
- I would've tapped myself on the shoulder of my first drama class, pointed to the weird tall kid with a chin beard and flannel sitting next to the loud tiny Korean girl and said, "Pssst . . . 10 years from now she'll be your best friend and he'll be your husband."
Ok, not really, but it's funny to think about.
(I just shy of 20)
I wish I would have known.......hat I am an infertile. That I could have saved myself LOADS of money and suffering by not taking birth control. Clearly, I didn't need it anyway.
Good one!!! 10 years ago I was 17 about to graduate high school & go to college.
I wish someone would have told me that a job is just that, a job. You can bust your a$$ in college/high school to get all the good grades you want, but in the end, is it all worth it? It may be if you want to climb the corporate ladder, but what if once you get into the corporate world and realize it's not for you cause of all the red tape, then what? There's also the whole "growing up" part and factoring in where your family come in while trying to be that sucessful woman. . . you can't have it all. I guess, I just should not have worried about getting such "good" grades and had a little bit more fun, cause life isn't all about good grades.
THIS!
And Cassie's(?) being freakin' awesome!...
I was 18 and by this time 10 years ago I was already a college drop out.
I wish I had known 10 years ago what I really wanted to do with my life so that I could be doing it now instead of still working towards it! Luckily I do know that I want to work with animals now but when I was 18 I was still convinced I wanted to go into business. . .my things do change!
10 yrs ago I was in my late 20's...about as late as you can get in your 20's unfortunatley
I wish I had worked harder on losing weight because that doesn't get any easier with age. This is probably my biggest regret.
I wish I had been more disciplined about credit card spending and saving money so I didn't have the added stress of debt and no savings when facing a job loss....however I'm making my last CC payment next week and will finally be debt free except for a house payment!!!
I wish I had done a lot more looking before buying my first house. It is a nice house but there are a lot of things I will do differently the next time I buy a house.
I wish I knew that credit cards were the devil and that I shouldn't use them for 'fun' in college.
Drop that a$$hold douchebag that you are with. He really is never going to marry you, and he isn't worthy of you anyway. PS don't even think twice about picking up and moing to SF and living in a crappy apartment to "find yourself". You will end up having the time of your life and will eventually lead you to someone who is worthy of you and treats you with love and respect.
FINISH COLLEGE find a way, because once you move to LA with said DB you will not enroll because you will have to get a better job to pay rent in LA and DB will not pay for your college like he said he would.
Don't get that credit card. You just arent that responsible. Just don't do it.
Don't regret anything that you have done or decisions that you made. You will beat yourself about this, let it go now and you will be a much happier person sooner.
Don't let other people's negativity and insults toward you affect you. Having confidence is the best way to shut them up and really who gives a sh!t what they think anyway. In 10 years most if not all of them will be losers and you'll be married to the man of your dreams living the life you always wanted.
Boys are stupid. Don't worry about them not asking you out or falling all over you. You will find the right one -- you're just lucky enough to not waste your time with all the sh!tty ones along the way.
You eat well and workout really hard now and are in awesome shape. NEVER lose that routine. I know it's hard work and sports are a big reason you're in such good shape, but keep it up even if it's not quite the same level. Gaining weight is the worst thing you can do! Once it's there, it never leaves...really fat cells don't disappear, they just shrink. So once you put the weight on, it's hard to keep off.
That is so awesome!!! Congrats to you
I would have been 18 and went away for college to get away from my toxic friends. That should have been a signal to stop talking to them instead of trying to stay friends anyway. It would just bit you in the ass later on.
There is just a thing as the word NO. Say it and mean it. Dont spread yourself too thin. It gets exhusting.
Get only one CC and use it wisely.
The guy that you have been dating, who is pushing things too fast for you and showering you with gifts and going out of his way to impress you? The one who cries or begs when you say "no" or "not yet" to him about anything? The one who is 12 years older than you but doesn't act like it? END IT NOW. He's AN EFFING NUTCASE. And he's going to make the next six years of your life a living hell. Run!
And go to law school or business school or something. I know you hated school, but you are worth a lot more money than this. You would like these classes WAY better than undergrad.
20 year old self:
Finish your communications/journalism degree- take the internships that you were offered even though you couldn't afford to work for free. It would've opened way more doors and connections for you.....so what if you had to eat Ramen everyday and take the bus?? It would've been worth it in the long run.
Stick with your daily trips to the gym and the weight you are losing on the way to your 21st b-day bash in Vegas! You looked GREAT on that trip and were in the best shape of your life. You end up gaining it all back AND THEN SOME.
SAVE money.....even a little bit! The more you made, the more you spent. You are still still be paying for all those trips, clothes, and "experiences" when you are 30!
Go to the dentist while you have the dental coverage.......your 30 year old self is kicking herself in the ass now for all the work she needs done. Thanks!
**I'm sure 20 year old Patty wishes she knew more, that's all I can think of right now**
10 years ago I was 22 . . . ugh.
Stick with your job . . . don't quit to help open another office with a friend because they won't pay you what you are worth and it will set you back about 5 years professionally.
Get back to school, STAT! Its a lot harder with a baby, dogs, husband, job, house, family, etc.
Take care of your credit! I didn't learn to be good with my credit until my late twenties . . . it took a while to repair the damage for sure!
Just shy of 21...
You're taking control of your weight, congratulations! DON'T QUIT!
That guy, the one you're crying over and upset about and wants to date your roommate? TOTAL DB. The guy you're going to marry, he's right there...so he's a little younger than you...who cares? He's so amazingly good to you.
Dear pushing 22 self...
You just paid off all your CC debt, DO NOT put yourself back into that deep hole **freaken dumby**
He will not marry you and will force you to do something you do not want to do. Dont do it.
I was 17//18...
Stay physically active - you gained way too much weight in college. Get a part-time job in college.
Expand your friendships with your sorority sisters.
Don't move back to Florida!!! I really wish sometimes I had stayed in Charlotte (but then I might not have met my hubby).
Don't use your credit cards - you're still paying them off. When your sister needs to be bailed out, let her deal with it - don't put it on your credit card!!!
Find a good ob/gyn b/c the first one you went to was a douche.