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Q about prayer (not a debate)

I don't pray, not my thing. If you do, I won't stop you, pray on! But I'm wondering, since doing the MK thing, before each meeting they pray. I stand up to join, hold hands with them, but I don't say Amen, or really "get into it" like them. They don't know my personal beliefs, but I do feel slightly weird/wrong for taking part, though probably not as much as if I just sat there while they did, I guess. So my question for those who pray is: do you find this offensive/wrong?

Re: Q about prayer (not a debate)

  • Not at all offensive. If i was in canada and they played the canadian national anthem i would still stand although i am not a canadian. I would do it in respect to those who are citizens. Its the same idea :)
  • I wouldn't be offended by that.  It just sounds like to me you're being respectful of others and imo we need more that in the world from everyone.
  • I do this.  My family is very religious and I do it for respect to them and to save face with them.  Its wrong to hide my personal religious beliefs (of which I have none) from them but they just wouldn't understand and would hate me. 
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    Nope, I would not be offended at all.  I also wouldn't get upset for you joining the group, or even if you sat back. 

    The only thing that would make me mad would be if someone made a big deal about it...  And even there we're all entitled to our own opinions but I wouldn't want someone to tell me I can't pray. 

  • I think it's respectful that you stand.  You don't have to participate in saying a prayer.  I dont think it would be disrespectful if you were asked to say a prayer and declined.

  • Thanks ladies, I just wasn't sure how it would look if it was asked one day about my religious beliefs (or like Sax, lack thereof). Just didn't want to blindly offend anyone. I know I'm in the minority, and there are some things I'm vocal about, but when it comes to religion and praying, do your thing, it's cool, I'll give respect. Only when it's forced on me will I speak up. But I'll continue to stand with them, because they're my friends, and it's a part of them. But yeah, I'd never tell anyone they couldn't pray. I realize the impact it has on people and I won't take that away, even if it doesn't make me totally comfortable all the time.
  • No, not offensive. Respectful.

    DH does this with my family. Since we're from different religious backgrounds and his parent's aren't the prayer before you eat kinda people and neither are we really, but one of my uncles is so he always says a prayer. We join in and say it, but Steve just stands there closes his eyes, holds hands and moves on afterwards. 

    He was great when my grandmother was in the hospital and we were doing last rites and whatnot - he stood by me and tried to actually follow along while we did the prayers which meant a lot and I was so grateful. I didn't ask him, but I guess at that point he felt like he really need to partake. I told him before he could just wait outside if he was more comfortable. 

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