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Need to help a friend, but don't know what to do
A friend of mine in Russia got married about a year ago. We talk online semi-regularly, we used to be very close before I moved to the States. Occasionally I get very sad messages from her about her husband, things like "He got drunk last night and didn't come home" or "he doesn't want to go anywhere on a vacation except for his hometown, and it's the way it's going to be because he said so". It makes me very sad for her, I mean how could you live with somebody like that? On the other hand, I absolutely do not know the entire story of course being so far away and not seeing it for myself. She can also be quite a bit of a drama queen sometimes.
So what am I supposed to do? I mean it's absolutely non of my business, I suppose where they go on vacations, but when she says those things to me, I want to help, but what do I say that won't make her feel even crappier about the whole situation?
Re: Need to help a friend, but don't know what to do
I know it's hard that she's so far away. It just really sucks that she's in this situation, and on top of everything, she has a 7-year-old daughter from her previous marriage, so the little girl cannot be unaffected by all the drama!
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I've thought about that, but I doubt that that would even happen. For a number of reasons.
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