May 2007 Weddings
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WR "Confession"

I applied for that job last TUESDAY.  (Job posting said it closed EOD Thursday.)

Friday we got an email... they extended the posting until EOD THIS FRIDAY.

This makes me think a few things:

1 - I'm the only one or one a small handful who applied for the position, and

2 - My manager doesn't like any of the candidates, thus requesting it remain open for anothe week.  Even though it had already been posted more than a full week. Sad

3 - My manager sent us all an email yesterday saying "I need a draft for your goals by end of week."  This is the first time she'd mentioned it to any of us.  WhyTF should I write bullshit goals when a) there is nothing we can aspire to do better in this role - she shuts us into our current role and shoots us down when we try to learn something - and that's what goals are, b) she's transferred most of the products we support, giving them to other areas, so I have my choice in learning something about 1 of the 2 products we support (1 of which will be offshored & both I know very well), c) she won't let us learn anything from other areas because she feels it's "not pertinent" even though if any of us hope to stay with this company, we'll have to move to other groups, and d) I'm hoping to get the F out of this group - it's a sinking ship.

Re: WR "Confession"

  • I would turn those negatives into goals  Say, something like given that i have extensive knowledge/experience with X & Y, I'd like to make it a goal to start branching out to other areas and learn more about the products/services.

    This is something that should go into your employee file. If the time ever came up that you need to cover your ass, you can say, look, I expressed interest in other areas but was shot down/held back.

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    I would turn those negatives into goals  Say, something like given that i have extensive knowledge/experience with X & Y, I'd like to make it a goal to start branching out to other areas and learn more about the products/services.

    This is something that should go into your employee file. If the time ever came up that you need to cover your ass, you can say, look, I expressed interest in other areas but was shot down/held back.

    Problem is... our goals, when we submit them into our system (it's all online), go to our manager for approval.  If I say "I want to branch out to other products/services", she'll send it back to me and stop at my desk saying "This isn't pertinent, so I don't see why you should learn it."  If we say "It's part of the company and may be useful 6 months down the road, considering this are of the company is constantly evolving/taking on new responsibilities, etc", she'll say "Well it's not relevant now.. I can't justify you spending time/money training on something that's not relevant to this job now." Confused Thanks, beyotch.

  • Make short term goals and then specicially state as part of my long term goals I would like to try x,y, and z.

    She sounds like a cvnt face.

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  • imageMelanie051907:

    Make short term goals and then specicially state as part of my long term goals I would like to try x,y, and z.

    She sounds like a cvnt face.

    I agree with Mel.  I'm sure you can come up with some sort of short term goal (Perhaps "TO GET OUT OF THIS CRAZY GROUP!!!" - ok, perhaps not...).

    As for the extension of time.  There's a chance that you are one of the only people to apply and they want you to have the job but want to make sure they are "fair" and it doesn't look like preferential treatment to hire you.  We've actually done this before.  Opened a job, someone from within wanted it and we wanted them to have it but thought people would "talk" if we gave it to them so we extended the time frame, got more applicants, then hired from within anyway because she was the most qualified. 

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    imageMelanie051907:

    Make short term goals and then specicially state as part of my long term goals I would like to try x,y, and z.

    She sounds like a cvnt face.

    I agree with Mel.  I'm sure you can come up with some sort of short term goal (Perhaps "TO GET OUT OF THIS CRAZY GROUP!!!" - ok, perhaps not...).

    As for the extension of time.  There's a chance that you are one of the only people to apply and they want you to have the job but want to make sure they are "fair" and it doesn't look like preferential treatment to hire you.  We've actually done this before.  Opened a job, someone from within wanted it and we wanted them to have it but thought people would "talk" if we gave it to them so we extended the time frame, got more applicants, then hired from within anyway because she was the most qualified. 

    Thanks for making me feel better, Mandy. LOL

    And yes, Melanie, she most certainly can be.  A controlling one, at that.  She has blatantly told me she wants "strong, solid performers, not rockstars... the company wants goals that push our employees to be rockstars, but I don't want that." Hmm  Oh, and she also told another CW that "it must suck to work for a manager who doesn't feel she can ever give out 4/4 for a review unless that employee would be in the top 10% of the company."  It's an f-ing global company!  You'd have to be in the top 10% of HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE.

  • I agree with Mel and Mandy.  Do you have another manager over her that you could maybe say something to? 
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  • Of course there's a manager over my manager, but to jump over her and go to her manager?  Tongue Tied  I might as well hand my notice in now.... my manager would make life hell until she finally got rid of me.

  • I'm really sorry she is making this so difficult for you :(
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