DH wants me to take up golf

Reinedumonde · May 2010

and I am...hesitant.

Now, I know it'll be good for us as a couple to spend time together outside, getting exercise, etc, etc, but I am scared! Almost everything I hear about the sport is how frustrated people are with their performance, even after years and years of practice.

I can't imagine my first lesson will be anything less than hideous, both in my performance and in the language spewing from my mouth. I'm totally up for trying new things, but learning golf is quite the undertaking.

I thought I could weasel my way out of it--I said "when you try yoga, I'll try golf." And what do you know, DH is coming with me to yoga this weekend and expects me to sign up for a golf less on the following weekend. He knows he's going to stink at it, but he's willing to humiliate himself to make me try something he knows I'm going to stink at. Ugh, way to call my bluff, jerk.

Do any of you play? Have you had any positive or extremely frustrating experiences with it?

Cipolla2Be · May 2010

Awww that's cute he's going to yoga with you. My DH and I play golf, but we prefer to go to the driving range instead. I can't hit the ball straight to save my life and I get tired half way through the holes and just want to drive the cart around )off the path)..... I would try going to the driving range first to see if you like it. They also have practice tees for putting.... I hate putting....I just want to hit the crap out of it! Angry

wittyschaffy · May 2010

I am a terrible golfer but that sorta makes it fun. If you go for the purpose of taking yourself totally seriously, it won't be any fun and you won't enjoy yourself. I have "moments of brilliance" that I remember during a game and try to not recall the moments of total crappy-ness that ensue the rest of the time! hehe - I seriously hit myself with a ball once because it hit a tree and bounced back right at me. I hit the deck but still got whacked. That was a good chuckle for everyone involved!

Reinedumonde · May 2010

wittyschaffy:
I am a terrible golfer but that sorta makes it fun. If you go for the purpose of taking yourself totally seriously, it won't be any fun and you won't enjoy yourself. I have "moments of brilliance" that I remember during a game and try to not recall the moments of total crappy-ness that ensue the rest of the time! hehe - I seriously hit myself with a ball once because it hit a tree and bounced back right at me. I hit the deck but still got whacked. That was a good chuckle for everyone involved!

That's what DH says. I should accept that I'm going to be terrible (he thinks he is) and just have a good time being outdoors, but the competitive person in me thinks this is going to be difficult.

Karen2905 · May 2010

I think it's really cute that he wants to find more ways to spend time with you! And that he's going to yoga? Awesome!!!

Give golf a chance, and don't take it too seriously. Hell, I did it with World of Warcraft, and it wasn't nearly as bad I thought it was going to be.

Do you think he'll compromise with frisbee golf if regular golf doesn't work out?

munkii · May 2010

Give it a shot! Remember like anything else, it will take practice and one lesson will not make you a pro. If possible, get a female instructor as she will probably give you more positive reinforcements and communicate better with you. Also, after a lesson or two, hit up the driving ranges before trying to take on half a course because half a course is half a day--if you're hard on yourself, half a day will drive you mad. You're gonna rock it!

Reinedumonde · May 2010

I'm going to have to do it now. DH is committed to bikram this weekend, which means I am committed to golf the next. Mom knows a good female pro at their golf course she can hook me up with, so hopefully that won't be too awful.

I think it's really sweet that he wants to spend time together, too. He gets lonely on the course by himself and I love that he wants me there to fill that void. I just hope I don't end up frustrating him with my pokeyness.

Karen2905 · May 2010

Reinedumonde:
I'm going to have to do it now. DH is committed to bikram this weekend, which means I am committed to golf the next. Mom knows a good female pro at their golf course she can hook me up with, so hopefully that won't be too awful.
I think it's really sweet that he wants to spend time together, too. He gets lonely on the course by himself and I love that he wants me there to fill that void. I just hope I don't end up frustrating him with my pokeyness.

...Maybe he'll be so sore from Bikram that he'll change his mind?

Reinedumonde · May 2010

Karen2905:
Reinedumonde:
I'm going to have to do it now. DH is committed to bikram this weekend, which means I am committed to golf the next. Mom knows a good female pro at their golf course she can hook me up with, so hopefully that won't be too awful.
I think it's really sweet that he wants to spend time together, too. He gets lonely on the course by himself and I love that he wants me there to fill that void. I just hope I don't end up frustrating him with my pokeyness.

...Maybe he'll be so sore from Bikram that he'll change his mind?

Nah, he'll have a week to recover. I'm really tempted to go to Bikram Friday night and then say "Sorry Honey, I'm way too sore to golf today," but then that would only get me a week's extension and a lot of dirty looks.

2dBride · May 2010

Well, Gold Digest has more than its share of Viagra ads. Perhaps you should suggest that this proves that golf has a bad effect on, ahem!, "performance"?

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