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OMFG
This has been the worst week and I really need to vent.
We had an allergist appt for Ethan yesterday that was a complete waste of time. They won't test him again until December so I don't know if he has any new allergies or if he has outgrown any of his allergies. I NEED to wean him. I am so sick from this pregnancy and need to be able to eat things that make me feel better. My supply has dropped so he wants to nurse ALL THE TIME. If he doesn't get to nurse, then he goes into a huge, aggressive tantrum. I don't think it will be healthy for any of us if I'm still nursing him when this new baby arrives. I don't think I could handle that physically either. The allergist suggested prescription formula and said "I don't know what to tell you" when I asked her what do I do if he won't drink it b/c that stuff is foul tasting. I left the appointment in tears and feeling like I'm failing Ethan.
I'm so tired and weak and really struggling with dealing with Ethan's toddler behaviors. Right now we're just trying to get by until I can function better.
I just got a call from our realtor. Our buyer backed out. Her excuse is something in the condo docs but I'm not sure that is true. She came to see the house again last night and today she backs out. Disappointed doesn't even describe how we feel right now. We filled a storage unit to put our house on the market, we emptied that back into our garage (both times with the help of Jen and Joe ... thank you!) and now WTF. Get another storage unit to re-list our house? UGH. I am just sick over this. The other interested buyer has already found another place. And to top it off ... the freaking tax credit ends today so that was added incentive to our house, which is a great first house. I am so pissed we didn't choose the other buyer. I was relieved to not have to keep this house ready to show and just relax.
I'm so mad right now that I don't even feel like moving forward with this process. Maybe we should just refinance and stay. Our garage looks like we belong on that Hoarders show but at least we're comfortable in the house. Thanks for reading all of this.
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Can you try another allergist to see if they will test him sooner? Don't give up, with our health care system you need to be your own advocate. You have done an AMAZING job dealing with all of the allergy issues and deserve the equivalent of an Oscar for BFing.
I feel your anger and pain with the buyer walking. Our buyer did the exact same thing, came back to look and then walked. WTF. And F April 30th. I feel like we are absolutely screwed after today. We extended our contract on the other place until the end of June because DH really loves that house. I am so done with the entire process. I am putting my china back in the cabinet and painting the spare room anyhow. Our stuff is still in storage, I am ready to move it back. Sigh.
Oh Christina...I feel so bad for you and all of this going on at once! : ( First of all, I'm so sorry that you seem to be going nowhere with Ethan's allergy issues. I agree with Denise, can you go to another doctor??
What a mess with the house issues!!!! I would be so upset and mad too! You poor thing! I really hope that something works out soon.
Hang in there. You are an amazing mom and such a strong person to handle all of this. ((hugs))
Wow, Christina! I am so sorry to hear about everything. You are a wonderful mother to Ethan...and one of the strongest mothers I know for what you've been going through the past year. I hope you can find some relief soon from the m/s and find a good alternative for Ethan, if nursing just isn't working at this point. I agree that a trip to another allergist might be worthwhile.
I'm so sorry to hear about the house situation, too. It really is crushing when a buyer walks. Things will get better though....no matter what you decide to do. Thinking of you!
Thanks ladies. I really appreciate your support and encouragement. We've seen both pediatric allergists in the area that are covered under our insurance. We switched from the first one to Hershey but I called her back for her opinion. She won't be in the office until Wed. I know she's going to suggest the same formula though b/c she suggested it when he was 4.5 months old in favor over breastfeeding. She doubted my ability to safely nurse my son, allergen free. I thought the call was still worth a shot. We'll see.
Weaning is a roller coaster. We're down to three sessions a day with several meltdowns and fits in between. It breaks my heart to see him beg to nurse...he pulls my face toward him for strong eye contact, signs to nurse, then says "mamamom". Ripping my heart straight from my chest. We decided to try hemp milk for now. He doesn't love it but he's been drinking it. I think he's had about 6oz each day on Sat and Sun. He just went down for a nap with it and w/o nursing. We'll see how after nap goes. Yesterday he went down w/o nursing but FREAKED OUT when he woke up. I was actually more scared for Matt to leave me alone today than I was when he went back to work after Ethan was first born.
I plan to go back to the nutritionist to make sure Ethan's diet has enough Calcium and fat (for brain development).
We are taking a break from buying/selling our home at least until I feel better and feel more confident in weaning Ethan. Too many challenges at once was not good for any of us. I'm contemplating staying more and more. I'm starting to become anxious about leaving my comfort zone when we'll have so many other life changes.
Denise, I'm so sorry that you were dealt such a crappy situation too. It's infuriating! I truly hope that a buyer comes along soon so that you can keep your contract on the new house. It sucks to get your hopes up only to have them crushed like that.
TTC since Jan 07. Dx with PCOS Jan 08
Oh my! I'm so sorry I'm late in replying.
I don't even know what to say! It just sounds like everything fell to pieces. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all of this at the same time. How overwhelming!
Call if you need to talk!
I'm coming in late here, but I did want to express my sympathy for you. I can't even begin to imagine what it is like going through everything you have gone through with BFing. I'll keep my fingers crossed that the other allergist will be more supportive this time around having seen how well you've done over the past year. Hopefully she'll at least be willing to retest Ethan. Good luck!
I'm so sorry to hear about the house deal falling through in the midst of everything else you are going through. It sounds like you've come to a good place with that decision for now in an effort to get through everything else. Hopefully the next time around things will go more smoothly, and you'll be able to find the perfect house for your family.