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new baby and trouble getting back into the groove of "things"
My DF and I just had a baby in February and are getting married in July. Once my doctor gave us the ok to start having sex again we did but only a couple times a week. Then it slowed down a little more....I am so busy with the baby that most of the time I cant even think about getting in the mood. He doesnt turn me off, but he doesnt turn me on anymore. Sorry TMI! Is this normal? I am sure it is, I just dont like it. I am insecure and feel like he isnt attracted to me anymore with my after baby flab and he probably feels like I just dont want to make love. ahhh frustrating! any advise?
Re: new baby and trouble getting back into the groove of "things"
Honestly, give yourself some time. It's been what, three months? Your hormone levels are different after having a baby, you're trying to adjust your whole life, and it's going to take some time for everything to settle out.
That said, make plans with your FI, either out on a date if you can get a babysitter, or order in and watch a movie. Make the time to actually focus on each other. I know it always feels like there's a ton to do, but it's ok to let stuff slide and enjoy some time to yourselves.
Your doctor will give you KY jelly and then look busy.
Your real friends will tell you about Astroglide.
Your girlfriends are in the know
I agree with other pp. Give it some time, and everything will come back to ya'. Juggling the responsibilities of having a new baby (especially if it's the first baby and learning everything) plus all other things life throws at you can be tough to find routine. And the complexity of hormones doesn't help. ha ha
Took me 6+ or so to get back into the "groove" of things and feel comfortable with myself. Everyone is different.
Hang in there!
As other posters have said. Relax, don't panic, don't worry and just do your best. That super women we see in the media doesn't exist. Your body just made and delivered a baby. The hormones have yet to settle.