June 2009 Weddings
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FF Post wedding confessions
We're all coming up on a year soon. Any one have any wedding related confessions?
We have so much time, and so little to do! Strike that, reverse it.
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Re: FF Post wedding confessions
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Sheesh. What's his deal? He already got paid!
My confession is just that every time I hear or see something about weddings it makes me wish I had done mine differently. I was very happy on that day, but the more I think about it the more I think I would have done everything but the groom differently.
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Sometimes I miss wearing only my E-ring. I think it looks specialier by itself
I'm more excited for our 1 year anniversary trip than I was for our honeymoon
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I confess that I really could not care any less about other peoples' weddings now that mine is over. I find everyone to be over the top and annoying about stupid stuff, even though I was probably the same way. However, I never announced my bridal shower information on FB like my husband's cousin is... she is a self-proclaimed 'control freak' and she wants to know who will be there. And she'll publicly talk about that on FB. SOOO gift grabby. I hate it.
I also confess that the 2 weddings I am going to this year, I am not giving big gifts because they didn't. Whoops.
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I just recently printed the first photos from our wedding and that was only because H's aunt was driving me crazy over getting a copy of one of the family photos.
I still have a $350 print credit and book with the photog that I haven't touched. We have no framed/printed photos anywhere in the house. I really need to get on that!
ETA: I also haven't sent a couple of thank you notes for people that sent gifts like 6 months after the wedding was over...oops. If they wanted to be on that train, they should have hopped on during or right after the wedding and not waited so long...
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Agreed, except for substitute crappy for no. We had some friends (including DH's best friend whom he gave an awesome engagement gift to years ago and of course a wedding gift) and family who came but no gift at all. Very surprising considering who they were. At least a card or something, people!
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I have 2 thankyou notes I haven't done yet. One was K's grandma... we kept drafting it up but wanted to write something really thoughtful/nice and one thing led to another = she never got one. So we're gonna make her an album and write our "thankyou note" inside the front cover. Then there's my aunt who RSVP'ed yes but was a no-show. She sent us a gift card in January.
I also haven't used my $300 print credit through the photographer, but will probably do that once we get our rooms fixed up and start framing things in the next month or so.
Even though I absolutely loved my photographers, I am still often jealous to see some of the shots that other people got at their weddings. Or maybe I am just jealous of other people's pretty-ness and abilities to be incredibly photogenic at all times...
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I don't think it was worth it. We spent way too much of our hard earned money, and it wasn't the fairy tale day that the movies make it out to be. I mean, I'm glad we had a nice wedding. I just wish we'd done it on a smaller scale. The guests had a lot more fun than we did, and we thought we were throwing a big wedding to make ourselves happy. Oh well. The honeymoon on the other hand -- well worth it!
Also, I never got my Thank You cards out. There, I confessed it. Life has been beyond insane for me this last year, so Emily Post can suck it. Actually, I do feel bad about this, but at this point I'm just banking on people having forgotten about it and I'd rather not remind people of our faux pas by sending them out now.
Agreed. While I forgive people for not coming to our wedding, (it was 3000 miles away, after all), I do not forgive the people who could not drag their asses 10 miles or whatever away from home for two hours for a free lunch on a Sunday for our local recption. We had about 30% no shows, to the point where we were throwing money down the toilet by hosting such a lovely lunch at a hotel, and they are all in my bad book now.
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I know how you feel, Chrissy. We invited about 300 people, 150 rsvp'ed yes, and only about 120 showed up. A ton of money was wasted and I wish we just had a small scale wedding, or a destination wedding with a local reception. The honeymoon was way more worth it and I didn't even have a hand in planning it!
My frenemy who is getting married next summer she didn't care about the honeymoon at all. I gave her my advice: CARE! It is so much more worth it than the wedding after all the stress and bs you deal with for months.
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You WOULD make me go there, wouldn't you?!!
Since we're confessing...
I had dinner with a few girlfriends about 2 or 3 months back. We were talking about one of the girls' upcoming wedding and registering, etc. One of my friends turned to me and said, "By the way, Chris, did you ever get your Thank You cards out?" I was like, "Yeah. they went out on xxx date. Why, did you not get yours??" Then the other girls chimed in and said they didn't get theirs either, so I blamed it on the shotty mail service in my office building. In my defense, we DO have crappy mail service in our office building! So bad that I got a letter returned to me not long ago that was postmarked nearly 2 years before. Chrissy Fail.
Thanks, Mames!
For Chrissy:
I kid, I kid.
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M's college roommate was our ceremony musican. He got there early for pictures and setup his Mac to play music. I wanted him to play the guitar when guests started to arrive and were being seated. Could care less what he wanted to play as long as it sounded nice.
He tuned his guitar while M was walking with his parents and played the wrong song. I just wanted everyone to walk to the same song...I was annoyed!
I was talking to a good friend and he got this couple $300 tickets to a baseball game...we got a card... Yes I know gifts are not supposed to matter, but seriously...
Threads like this make me love you all.
And on the gift subject, we told people not to get them for us, that coming to the wedding would be enough. And we meant it. But almost to the person, the people who were married got us gifts and the people who were single didn't. I wonder if it's because they've been through that wedding situation and they know!
(for this to make sense, you should know that, while I have no married friends, DH does).
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Can I confess that I wish we had spent more money? Everything was nice, but there are a few people we excluded to save money that I wish we had invited. I especially wish I had spent even more money for the dress I really wanted.
When the wedding was over, it was all paid for, and I think we could have spent a little bit more and felt better overall about the whole thing.
There are soooo many things that I still have a grudge about. Examples:
...1 out of our 2 couple of host and hostesses did absolutely NOTHING and the other couple were running around keeping everything running smoothly.
...One of our flower attendants/pinner didn't show up til right before the wedding and didn't do a damn thing.
...We invited more than enough people to fill the church (around 350), enough to fill the church comfortably RSVP yes (roughly 300), and only around 225 peopled showed! Ugh.
...The day we were setting up the reception hall, I find out that we only had half of the tables that were promised for us to use because the rest of them were being used for someone else's rummage sale. Can you say fail! At least it didn't end up being a problem because of the no shows.
I wish I would have went with the cheaper discontinued dress that I found and fit perfectly, but it was in ivory and I was bound and determined to have white. I love my dress, but I think I would have liked the other one better because it wasn't at puffy.
I will also admit that I have no photos up in our house yet. I have one that is being framed right now, I just have to pick it up. I still need to make photo books and a big collage canvas. In my defense, we didn't get our pro pics back until a couple months ago.
All in all, if I had to do it again, I would do a destination wedding.
I would have had the organ play while my dad walked me down the aisle. My mom and I fought on this quite a bit and my dad made the request but I was too stubborn. I was too concerned with making sure it was my day that I lost sight of the fact that my dad thought about that moment for years before I planned a thing.
I also would have made the slideshow during the father/daughter dance a priority. It didn't get done and I missed a very special moment.
I would have remained sober enough to remember my wedding toast. Oops! A bottle and a half of champagne + a few shots does not equal public speaking condition. I have been told I didn't make a complete @ss out of myself though...
I would have had a different personal attendant. I love my friend but she was too professional and I would have rather had her attend as simply a friend not a DOC/PA doing a favor for someone.
I wish I wouldnt have had so much champagne... I really didnt think I had much but people kept refilling my glass and I really don't remember much about the last hour of our reception.
I wish I would have bought more comfortable shoes - instead of getting my dress hemmed I wore 3.5" heels and they were horribly uncomfortable - so my feet were in so much pain by the time we had our first dance. I took them off and put on thick wedge flip flops but they were stilll only about 1.5" so I was holding my dress up to keep from stepping on it all night.
I wish we would have spent the extra $500 on our HM and gone to Costa Rica. We were between the Dominican Republic and Costa Rica and the other trip would have been awesome, more adverture tours/ziplining/etc and we just spent the week by the pool/beach in DR. Our HM was great but I think we should have spent the extra few dollars to make it more fun.
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I honestly wouldn't change much. There are only a few things...
1) I might have rethought how we did the wedding party. Not because of drama or anything, but because it still irks me to look at the pictures and see uneven sides. I know it's stupid, but it's the one thing I look at the pictures and go "ugh, one extra person so stands out."
2) I would have changed the invite list a bit. Again, no drama, but there were a couple people who I invited who I used to be close to that came to the wedding, are in tons of pictures, and who I don't talk to anymore. It bums me out that their seat could have been for someone else (or that I could have had a smaller wedding).
3) I would have registered for different and/or fewer gifts. We got some great decorative items and most of the "necessities," but we also got some random stuff we put on our registry as an "impulse" that we've NEVER used and we're still missing some items we really did want/need.
4) I LOVE my wedding colors and I think they worked so well for our event, but every time I see other unique/cool color schemes, I think "If I did this again, I would do X and X colors instead."
SBS, uneven WP bugged you? It still doesn't bother me at all, and I'm usually a very symmetrical kind of gal.
I have a lot of wedding 'regrets,' not so much confessions.
- I would have been more forceful about not liking the front of my hair and having the stylist fix it.
- I would have not been so anxious to the point of catatonic the whole morning of the wedding. I was kind of heinous.
- I would have eaten the week of my wedding. At my last fitting the dress was too tight. Wedding day it was too big, and I had to slouch/stick my gut out to try to prevent slippage.
- I would have tried to visit with guests more. A lot skipped out too early, and I never had a chance to talk to them other than our "receiving line."
- I wouldn't have stuffed myself so full of the dinner to make room for cake.
- I would have made sure my THREE photographers got more guest shots.
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12