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Taking the leap

This is going to be long...so I apologize ahead of time. I just want to tell someone because I am so excited (cant tell friends yet because I want to make sure my ducks are all in a row)

Since I have been back from Alabama, I can hardly stand to be here. I cry all day everyday. I cry when I am driving to work, everything I do! I am just so unhappy here and so is my DH. We want desperately to be near our family and ever since I was up there for vacation, I can't get it off my mind.

I've wanted to move for over a year, but we were trying to get a transfer through my husband's work so he wouldn't lose his job. He has a great salary, great benefits, BUT he hates it. He doesnt want to work there, everyday he comes home unhappy. It's also taking a toll on his body. He works 60+ hours a week and his health has recently been going downhill. I started to ask myself, why are we waiting for a transfer and letting his job basically "pick" the location we live, when I know he hates the job? I can tell he wants out anyway.

So, my DH and I have decided that we are making a CRAZY decision and we are moving to Alabama. My mom has offered her house in Alabama to us, free of rent and everything. My husband's company is not located there. He has decided that he will quit, go back to school, get a degree and have a job that he REALLY loves. He has a lot of stock with the company, so when he quits he will cash it out and pay for his schooling. As for me, well, the teaching situation in Alabama is the same as Florida. I am going up in June and going to every single school and beg them for a job.

We will officially be moved in by the end of July. I am SOOOO excited and I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. We will be debt free in a few months so it is all perfect timing. I have never lived near family, but always wanted to. It's just going to be hard to explain to people what I am doing. I bet I will get a lot of crazy looks, but they just don't realize what I am going through emotionally. I NEED my family!  :) I am sooo happy! 

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Re: Taking the leap

  • You're doing the right thing, and you've worded everything in a way that people would think you were crazy to not take the plunge.  Congrats on your decision!
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  • Foto, I am SO happy for you!  You are absolutely right- why have you been waiting to be happy??  Life is too short to be miserable.  All the other things will fall into place.  Congrats!
  • How exciting!  Good for you! 
  • That's awesome, foto!

    You have to do what makes you happy, and all the rest will fall into place. And it sounds like you have everything thought out really well, so I agree with munkii- it sounds like you'd be crazy not to!

  • Life is too short... I'm sure it seems scary as hell now but it will be so worth it in the end!  Congrats on doing what YOU want! Big Smile
  • I agree with everyone 100%. You are doing the right thing. Nothing is more important then family and it's so nice to have them close by.
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  • Thats awesome! I totally know how you feel, having to keep something that big to yourself. H and I have also decided to move (from CT to Vegas!) but we aren't telling anyone yet either.

    Congrats to you and your hubby for making the right decision for you :)

  • Congratulations!! It sounds like you're making the right decision for you and your DH, you've got to do what makes you happy in life!! Good luck with everything!!
  • I'm so happy for you!  This is definitely the right decision.

    DH and I did the very same thing about a year and a half ago--we were living in Philly, broke and unhappy.  But since moving back to Maine to be with my family, we've been so much happier (and both now have full-time jobs).  

    I sincerely hope your move works out as well as ours did.  There's no reason to put off your happiness.

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    imageFotophreak4c:

    This is going to be long...so I apologize ahead of time. I just want to tell someone because I am so excited (cant tell friends yet because I want to make sure my ducks are all in a row)

    Since I have been back from Alabama, I can hardly stand to be here. I cry all day everyday. I cry when I am driving to work, everything I do! I am just so unhappy here and so is my DH. We want desperately to be near our family and ever since I was up there for vacation, I can't get it off my mind.

    I've wanted to move for over a year, but we were trying to get a transfer through my husband's work so he wouldn't lose his job. He has a great salary, great benefits, BUT he hates it. He doesnt want to work there, everyday he comes home unhappy. It's also taking a toll on his body. He works 60+ hours a week and his health has recently been going downhill. I started to ask myself, why are we waiting for a transfer and letting his job basically "pick" the location we live, when I know he hates the job? I can tell he wants out anyway.

    So, my DH and I have decided that we are making a CRAZY decision and we are moving to Alabama. My mom has offered her house in Alabama to us, free of rent and everything. My husband's company is not located there. He has decided that he will quit, go back to school, get a degree and have a job that he REALLY loves. He has a lot of stock with the company, so when he quits he will cash it out and pay for his schooling. As for me, well, the teaching situation in Alabama is the same as Florida. I am going up in June and going to every single school and beg them for a job.

    We will officially be moved in by the end of July. I am SOOOO excited and I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. We will be debt free in a few months so it is all perfect timing. I have never lived near family, but always wanted to. It's just going to be hard to explain to people what I am doing. I bet I will get a lot of crazy looks, but they just don't realize what I am going through emotionally. I NEED my family!  :) I am sooo happy! 

    This is a big part of why we decided to move to San Francisco. the quality of life is just so much better there and his mom lives nearby. I am so excted for you to be making this decision for the well-being of your family. Yay for being happy!

    PS- I also just posted on Moody Monday that moving away is really difficult, but I think it will be different for you. I am not crying every day here and we have lots of great friends and I absolutely adore my boss and my job. Leaving something good is way harder than leaving something bad, so please don't let my emotions discourage you in any way. xo

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  • Thanks everyone for the well wishes! It makes me think I really am not that crazy for doing this. It's really hard for me to tell people, because the logistics and the common sense would tell you not to do it. But, they don't see how sad I am everyday. I feel like I have to give a huge explanation for people to understand the real situation I am in. I don't have any friends here, and I told my best friend who lives 2 hrs away and she didnt seem to be too upset over it. She just wanted to make sure I was still going to make her wedding invitations before I left. LOL When things like that happen, it makes me believe I really am making the right decision.

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