They appologized to us on Saturday night. She said sorry and that she was so embarassed HH flat-out asked us what we were spending on our Chicago trip. She admitted that they do talk about the stuff we do and wonder how we can afford it b/c they feel like they're missing out and wondering what they can do to have the same type of life.
I just told her that we save. We get our tax refund at the beginning of the year and that's (generally) our vacation fund. If we don't have the cash up front, we don't do things...yeah, we put it on a cc for the points, but it's paid off the day we get home. If it means eating at McD's a time or two while we're on vacation, that's what it means...I'm there for the experience, not to live in luxury. And I pointed out that her new house will be decorated beautifully within a couple of months of them moving in - ours may take a year or two to get it where I want it. Priorities.
Anyway. I feel better about it all now. And I think they do too...he asked us if we can help them plan a trip for all of us next year.
Re: F/U on my judgy friends
Well I'm glad they apologized! A lot of times it appears people live luxurious lives but they are just smart with their money!
Glad you feel better about it
Like everyone else said, I'm glad you guys talked about it. Maybe now they won't be as obvious and rude with their questions.
That's what I'm thinking. She brought it up by saying "I need to ask you something really personal and private, so if you don't want to talk about it, it's okay..." and HH looked like he was going to crawl under the table. I knew exactly what she was getting at. It was still a very uncomfortable conversation b/c I wasn't sure how much info to give at first, but it truly seemed like they were just curious about how they can do the same (and a little jealous).
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