The first year....

jeffnstef · May 2010

they say the first year of marriage is the hardest.....since we all have anniversaries coming up this month, a huge milestone upon us, what do you think? Was the first year as tough as you thought it would be?

This one is kind of a mixed bag. We had never lived together, but I would say the first 4 months were the toughest, as far as getting used to day in and day out routines of the other person, strange quirks we didn't know about each other, etc. Once we got used to those things, and adopted our kittens things started going much smoother.

LauraBeth1401 · May 2010

I didn't feel like it was hard, but it was a big adjustment. We didn't live together before the wedding either so learning each others routines and stuff was an adventure. I can't believe it's been a year. This time last year I was pulling my hair out and finishing all the details and everything. While I loved planning the wedding, I'm so glad it's over. Haha. We are starting our TTC journey now and I'm excited to see what the next year will bring us.

acp927 · May 2010

I feel kind of like Laura Beth. The first few months was an adjustment, but it wasn't really hard. And I felt like the biggest adjustment was actually keeping my own house more so than moving in together and getting used to schedules and things. That proved to be much less difficult than I anticipated.

annabear07 · May 2010

We lived together for about a year before the wedding so no big changes there. We did have a couple of rough months when we argued every morning over ridiculous things, but we got over that quickly. Not too much has changed but we have grown a lot closer with the deeper commitment we have made. More that I anticipated. I'm hoping that this next year is even better!

emmypants · May 2010

We didn't live together prior either. We'd bought our house and had move a lot of our stuff in and set up, but as far as living, we didn't start that until the day after the wedding.

It's been hard at times. I think since we hadn't lived together and it was almost a culture shock LOL. It's gotten way better. I've learned that communication will become your bff. I'm really good at holding stuff in, then blowing up and I'm learning not to do that and it's been great.

I'm excited to see what the next year will bring

LoveMyPEguy · May 2010

For us, I think married life has been A LOT easier than engaged life. Lol. We lived together for 5-6 yrs before we got married. And DH was a bear to live with while planning the wedding - he was really stressed about getting married and the money I was spending on the wedding. But as soon as the wedding was over everything changed! He's back to being the man I wanted to marry and things have been relatively smooth. I think the hardest thing has been combining our finances. We figured out that yours-mine-and ours works the best for us. I'm sure that is going to change to all "ours" soon though. As our little guy will be here in a few weeks and DH will most likely lose his job, go back to school and be a SAHD for 1-2 yrs. But life is all about change and you just have to roll with the flow. Things are good, no matter how bad they may seem

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RockThisB!tch · May 2010

Not hard for us to get into married life - nothing really changed for us. We've been together for so long that life was pretty much the same.

The hardest thing for us, though, was DH losing his job in August and he's still unemployed. He's barely even getting interviews around here and we're starting to consider moving away... something we swore we'd never choose to do.

xcitedbride2009 · May 2010

As far as living together, it wasn't much different because we lived together for at least a yr before we got married. The first couple months of marriage were somewhat tough because we lived with his mom before we got married, when we got married we moved into our own apartment. His mom had a rough time letting go at first, but now she has finally realized that we are married and we have our own life. We said we would wait a yr before starting TTC and it is now upon us, so I am very excited to see what our second year has in store for us!

Jen524 · May 2010

I thought the first year had some tough points in it, but it wasn't as hard as I though it was going to be. We adjusted quickly to living together and we did have a lot of life events thrown at us this past year (buying a house, having a baby, starting a new job). I think the hardest part that surprised me was how hard it was to adjust to the families. We had dated for 3 years before marriage and have known each others' families for a long time before that, but once we were actually a part of the others' family it was a huge adjustment. I think it is still something we struggle with. In-laws are something else, that is for sure and dealing with issues that have arose from them has been one of the harder challenges this past year.

With all the events that we had this year, I'm wondering what will be in store for the next year. It can't be as crazy....well at least I don't think it can be.

lauren.jake · May 2010

I have been surprised at how easy the first year of marriage has been. I never realized how close DH and I could be. We have had to do deal with a lot of stuff over the past year that we didn't expect, but each seemingly horrible thing that has happened has made us stronger. I guess sometimes it takes a little adversity to really appreciate what you have. I am hoping the next year brings much better things!

KristieElizabeth · May 2010

The first few months were the hardest. His dad passed away while we were on the honeymoon, so that was our first big thing to deal with. It took us a few months to get adjusted to living together, but it got better. He's had to deal with me being stressed out a lot. I've had to deal with him traveling for work a lot. Now we have a little one on the way. That was definitely not in our first year plan, but we are so excited that it happened. I'm ready to see what year #2 will contain now that we will become 3 for Christmas.

jgrisham24 · May 2010

Our first year was horrible! Not because we didn't get along or anything like that, but we've just had a rough year. If you can name anything and everything that could possibly go wrong in someone's first year of marriage - it has happened to us!! From loss of job to a miscarriage...and everything possible in between - we've been through it!! The good thing is that it has brought us closer together and made us stronger, but it was tough living through it all that's for sure especially in your first year when everything is supposed to be happy and exciting! We're finally almost fully recovered from everything and still just as happy and joyful people as we've always been, but it has been a tough year. I hope Year 2 is much better!

Huskerfanz · May 2010

We didn't live together before but moving in together went really smooth. The house buying process was a little stressful but not too bad. The most surprising and hard has been adjusting to the in laws but that is getting easier.

Sarah05102009 · May 2010

Our first year was so much easier than the years leading up to the wedding. Money isn't flowing in (I'm still only part-time in my profession of choice, full-time in retail and William is a full-time graduate student) but at least the money is consistent. Our families have finally chilaxed about everything and we can just be ourselves, a thousand miles away. Hopefully this time next year we'll be done with school and William will have an idea of what type of job we'll be moving for. I am ready to buy a house and stop the apartment lifestyle. Our first year, while a lot of communication and working together, was such a breeze.

jquirke9881 · May 2010

Our first year was great. We had dated for 5 1/2 years before getting married. We lived together for 3 and had owned a home together for 2. Buying a house and adjusting to being homeowners was harder for us than the first year of marriage. We started trying for a baby right away after getting married, and once we got pregnant, we kind of forgot we were newlyweds for a little while because we were so focused on adding to our family.

Chrissy3321 · May 2010

We had a great first year.

We bought our house about a year before the wedding, so we didn't have to move or anything afterwards.

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