June 2009 Weddings
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Vent: Seriously? Why bother!

So, as you may recall, I'm hosting a baby shower in about 3 weeks.  I have two co-hosts: one is a friend of mine and the mom-to-be (we'll call her I), the other is a friend of the mom-to-be (we'll call her M) that I apparently didn't care much for back in law school (according to my friend, and now I remember why!).  M contacted me asking if she could help. I said sure. We all met up last month and discussed initial plans. At first, she balked at the date mom-to-be picked, but agreed. She said she *might* plan to be out of town, but since that's the date the preggo wanted, she'd make it work.  She also said she'd help as much as possible since she's not creative.

Well, first time we do invites, she's no where to be found. Her bf was visiting apparently. Second time we did them (to finish), she showed up for 2 hours and then bailed to be with bf. We're meeting this weekend to finalize food stuff, and lo and behold, she's out of town (asked if we could put her on speaker phone).  And last night at midnight, she sends an email asking how long showers last because she has to leave town the day of the shower at 6. The shower is at 3! Seriously?! WTF? You knew about the shower date and time before you made plans and you couldn't work around the commitment you already made? I want to strangle her.

The end.

We have so much time, and so little to do! Strike that, reverse it.
My Bio (wedding pics added 7/6)
My 101
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Re: Vent: Seriously? Why bother!

  • Save yourself the stress and stop including her in the planning. She isn't comtributing to anything but headaches at this point for you
  • imagekeb270:
    Save yourself the stress and stop including her in the planning. She isn't comtributing to anything but headaches at this point for you

    Ditto this. She sucks.

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  • Ugh, that sucks.

    I say treat this as a group project from school where one member wasn't pulling her weight: give her one project to focus on  and you and good host can take care of the rest.

  • So annoying... this is exactly why I hate co-hosting anything.
  • imagehawkilady:
    So annoying... this is exactly why I hate co-hosting anything.

    Agreed.  Or co-hosting becomes a bigger deal because co-host keeps escalating the party.

    I wonder if anyone has had a good experience.

  • I guess it's my own fault. I don't know her well and don't usually get along with a ton of other women. The fact that my friend assumed I didn't like her (I have no idea why) should have tipped me off that it wouldn't go well, but I just didn't know how to say no to someone offering help. I thought she'd be annoying, not a flake.  Her only assigned tasks are to buy the stuff for the games. That was all I felt comfortable relinquishing to her. The good co-host is probably going to do most of the food shopping (and is letting us use her house) and I'll be decorating and baking. 
    We have so much time, and so little to do! Strike that, reverse it.
    My Bio (wedding pics added 7/6)
    My 101
    Lilypie First Birthday tickers
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