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sub par friendship (vent)
I have a friend, Brittany, that every time we make plans to hang out, she makes it into a multi-friend event. Like she's trying to push multiple obligations together so as not have to invest a lot of time. I sent her a message on Facebook asking if she wanted to get together, and she writes back "Yes, and M and E want to get together too so we're going over to E's for a movie." Well we may have been sorority sisters years ago, but M annoys me to no end and E has proved herself to be a shitty friend (planning an Avon party during my shower that she had already RSVP'd to, promising to come to my Bachelorette party and then not showing up, and then RSVP'd to the wedding +1 (boyfriend) and then not showing up.) I'm not even FB friends with these girls, I really have no use for them. Brittany even knows this (but apparently she forgot?). Of course if I'm ever around E/M I'm sociable, but I don't pretend like we're BFF or anything. I wrote back suggesting that instead we go on a double date with our husbands, so I guess we'll see. Ugh...
Re: sub par friendship (vent)
I hate that when friends do that to you! You just want to spend time with just them and it ends up being people you don't really care about.
Ugh... I'd do what Veruca mentioned above-maybe she doesn't realize she's doing this? or, if she does know she is-she'll know it's not what you want to do...
GL!
Hmm. I think I'd e-mail her and say, "Sorry, I was hoping to do more a one on one thing. I don't really hang with X or Y or Z anymore. Let me know when you're free for dinner sometime." Then you put the ball in her court. If she gets back to you, great. If not, then you don't have to worry about putting effort into a one sided relationship anymore.
I can definitely empathize. I actually used to do this to my friends sometimes just because I'd liked hanging out with a lot of people. Then I had a friend point she didn't really like other friends and I tried to be more conscious about it.
Uggg, that's so annoying. I hate when people do that. It's on thing if it's once or twice, but every time... Hopefully she'll go with the doulbe date so at least you don't have to hangout with the people you don't care for.
I agree with the other girls though. Try to let her know you'd like to hangout with just her when you make plans. If she's too busy then ask her to suggest another date other than including more people.