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Is this rude or am I sensitive?
Today at one of my jobs (I'm a cashier at a small grocery store) I was working with a new girl. Two customers asked her if they could each pay just half of the bill. New Girl asked me how to do that and I explained yes, she can and told her how.
Well, the guys started joking around and she said "Well, I know how to do the math because I went to college. Jkmcnamara didn't go to college, though".
She apologized, but it was really offensive to me! I didn't go to college because I was raised that I wasn't good enough or smart enough. I'm not ashamed that I didn't go to college. I might go one day. I'm not ashamed to work in a grocery store, even if I'm not working my way through school.
Am I overreacting? Or was that an insensitive comment? Like I said, she did apologize with a "that's not how I meant it".
Re: Is this rude or am I sensitive?
That was a dumb comment and I don't know how it could be misunderstood as anything *but* rude.
"Not how I meant it"? baloney. 
I'd be upset about it, too.
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Yep, what PP said. She totally meant it. I'd be done helping her.
It was rude.
And what I don't understand is why she felt it was necessary to throw out a comment like that when she was the one asking for help.
On a side note, don't feel like you're not capable of going to college. From the posts I've read, you seem intelligent. If college would help you attain a goal you want, then start taking a class or two at Ferris. It couldn't hurt anything, and may open up more doors for you in the future.
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Thank you. I keep saying I should take a class or two, and then I get scared. I never even took my SAT or anything because my mom didn't want to drive me and wouldn't let me borrow a car. And now that I've been out of school for five years....but I need to just go for it
Thank you.
The fact that she did it right in front of customers to me says that she was trying to cut you down in front of someone to make herself feel better about not knowing what she was doing. Sorry or not, it was a deliberate insult.
I might be making this too personal, b/c I know someone in real life who is like this. She says totally insulting comments and then plays dumb afterwards like she didn't mean it that way when it's obviously deliberate. I can't stand her is an understatement.
Exactly. Saying "that's not how I meant it" is such a lame excuse. It's not like we are good friends or anything. I barely know her.
And I get to work with her tonight.
I agree with KerCo. And really? She's putting you down for not going to college? She DID go to college and is working at the same place you are and you didn't go. So how does her college statement even work? What a biitch!
I meant to write about this too. If we all turned out to be the people who our parents thought we could/should be... well, you know. A class or two at a time is a good way to chip away at a big goal. If you want us to cheerlead you, let us know. This group is great for accountability and friendly nudges. If you want to drop it, we could do that too.