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My husband has no concept of time
This is probably my biggest pet peeve about my husband. If you ask him what he wants to do today, he'll say something like, "Well, I thought we'd clean the whole apartment, see a movie, take a walk in neighborhoodfaraway, get a beer, shop for xyz, watch the game, and check out restaurant in otherneighborhoodfaraway." And he means it.He just has no concept of how long things take sometimes.
This totally bites us in the arse when we have a deadline for something like say . . . moving? I can't lift anything heavier than about 10 pounds so we need someone else to help us more our furniture. I asked him to ask his brother and he said sure . . . And then he waited too long and his brother has plans to go to a bbq upstate. Now he says his friend who he's going to live with can help, but he's not sure when friend is going to get into town. BTW, did I mention that my brother, who's getting us a huge discount, needs to know RIGHTNOW when to reserve the truck otherwise they'll book up?
I'm tempted to just tell my brother to reserve for Sunday because worst case scenario my coworker can help that day. He's seriously stressing me out.
Re: My husband has no concept of time
I've come to realize that my idea of "soon" and DH's idea of "soon" are completely different. For example, we are nowhere near close to finishing cleaning out the baby's room (it's all DH's stuff). I see the clock ticking faster and faster, and DH thinks we have until I go into labor. He doesn't do anything quickly unless it's his idea, but I have yet to become a master of making him think things are his idea.
Behind every husband that says, "Things always have a way of working out," is a wife madly scrambling things together.
Flip, I've tried setting clear deadlines the same way I do at work, but if he thinks I'm being silly and he has plenty of time, it doesn't work.
Ugh! I feel your pain! My hubby is like this with household projects! We need to take down popcorn ceiling in a BIG room (15X15) and he thinks he can do it ONE weekend which would be fine if he could but the weekend after we have a HUGE party at our house and I don't want the room to be half done then. I told him it can't be done and now he thinks I'm challenging him. NO!
I say just rent the truck to get the ball rolling.
perfectly said!
It doesn't work for me either. Sigh.
So sorry! I'd book the truck, too!
Mine has 'selective' memory. I think he feels I'll prob tell him the same thing about 20 times and eventually, he'll remember it.
I'm going away this wkend-Fri-Sun. I'm off Fri. until Sun. I got "When are you leaving?" and he doesn't mean what time... makes me want to say-hey, I told you I was leaving Thurs eve... and hanging with Mom for the night to really get him, but I'm not.
GL with the moving/packing!
Ugh! I'd just book the truck, too.
I'm an "early" person, and DH is, well, not. Our concept of time is totally different. If we need to leave the house at 10:30, I'm ready to go by 10:15. DH, however, is just moseying on in to take a shower at 10:29. It drives me insane. The same issue applies to "soon," like flip_flops. I think DH is just a terrible procrastinator (though he'll never admit to it). He made the definite decision in January to buy a new car by March. It's now May. Does he have a new car yet? No. Has he started looking yet? No. It's things like this that make me feel like all I do is nag him because I don't understand what the problem is. X needs to by done by Y, so just do it already.
I'm laughing b/c in our relationship, its totally flipped. DH shows up early to EVERYTHING and I'm always late or right on time. Which freaks him out. THis weekend even, we were only 5 minutes early for H's swim class and DH was having a sh!t fit. "He's not going to have any warm up time, we're going to be the last ones there, blah blah."
Maybe I have the dude gene on this one.
Hahaha. This.