March 2010 Weddings
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Anyone else?
Ever since the wedding I've noticed that people act different. For example, there is a colleague at work who won't really speak to me and has all of a sudden taken up an interest in talking to one of my direct coworkers. Before he'd stop and having short conversations with me and now that the wedding band is on my finger, it's like I don't exist. DH and I live about an hour commute from our works (in opposite directions) so it's obviously not the most ideal situation but it's like people will not ask if I want to hang out in the city because they figure I want to go home to DH.
Yes, I love spending time with DH but just because I'm married doesn't mean I'm dead or so codependent on him!
Re: Anyone else?
I see it too in my social life but more so with friends. "Oh, your H is home, guess you have to go." Alone time is nice too!
I need my friends and he needs his. Having that balance seems to be a commonality in healthy long lasting relationships.
I haven't really had any comments like this, but anyone that knows us remotely well also knows that from May to December we live a totally different lifestyle because of H's profession. I have had a lot more friends/co-workers asking me to do stuff lately because they know I am usually home alone!
Misa- You just gotta tell them that you are an independent woman and you don't need them to make assumptions! Haha
BFP #1 2/28/12- 3/3/12 CP at 4w3d
BFP #2 4/1/12- 5/7/12 Missed M/C at 8w4d (measuring 6w3d)
TTC on hold until December
I've totally had this happen! One of my bridesmaids literally has not talked to me, save my bday dinner, since the wedding. Most of my friends quit inviting me to do things -- I'm married, so obviously I'm not allowed out late without the hubby. WRONG.
So I'm coping with it two ways. The first is by reading this awesome book called "What No One Tells the Bride." I don't remember who recommended it to me, but I plan on giving it to a friend of mine who's getting married in a couple of months. It talks about all of the expectations, what happens when friends disappear, and how to build a together life that still has plenty of time for alone time. The second (and less popular) way is that I'm severing ties with some of my friends. I've grown up and away from them, and if they can't see me as an individual, it's time to cultivate friendships with those who can.