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Moving back home...
Am I nuts? lol
So, as some of you may know, we sold our house...and are closing at the end of next month. Being we want bigger, we thought we'd rent for a year or 2 to save some money (rent is a lot cheaper than our mortgage), but my mom offered to have us come back home to save even more money! Now, I love my mom...I really do...but, she can be a pain in the tush sometimes, so I hope I won't regret this. My 'rents have a 4 bedroom house, so there is more than enough room for DH and I (and if we're still there in Dec., baby too). But, am I crazy? I spent 30 years trying to get out and only 2 1/2 years later am going back? lol ooh...plus we'd need to introduce Mickey, Minnie, Belle and Cinderella (our kitties) to Jelly and Beans ('rents kitties)...should be fun. What would you do? Would you go back home for a year or 2 or would you just rent an apartment? ooh, also...we'd take over their finished basement (where 1 of their bedrooms are), so we would have some privacy to ourselves. Plus, if it doesn't work out we can always start looking for an apartment, right? lol Wish me luck...
Re: Moving back home...
I really should be doing my work but here I am nesting.
Ok, my two cents - do what's right for you. Having said this, I would not advise someone to move in with their parents BUT you said you will be in the basement right? Away from their living space right? I don't know. You would save a lot of money for real and get to your dream home sooner. You know your parents best though...are they meddlesome?
BTW, congrats on the new car! DH and I are seriously thinking of getting a car since our car died AGAIN! We saw that Hyundai is having a great deal till the end of May. I need to do further research but so far it sounds like an amazing deal/good car. Do you love it?
Ok, I am leaving the nest now and focus on my reports...till like 5-ish LOL
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My father is completely laid back and doesn't put his 2 cents into anything, but my mom? She's a different story. lol I don't want to say she's meddlesome...it's more like opinionated. =/ We'll give living with them a whirl and if it becomes too much, we'll get an apartment. It can't hurt to try...can it?
Yup, I'm loving the car...and I got to say, I got over missing my other car (the one I picked you up in) rather quickly! I think the new car smell will do that to ya. lol Hyundai has a great warranty (10 years, 100,000 miles), so I kind of wanted to stick with that, but I didn't want a sedan (after 11 years with a sports car) and I'm happy I got the Tucson (the smaller SUV). We got an excellent rate of 2.9%...you should too if you have good credit! Good luck and keep me posted on what you decide to do.
How does your DH get along with your parents? And/or what does he think about the situation?
This is a very hard decision to make... To save money and get to your dream home faster (like Lawby said) i'd say do it. To save your sanity, i'd say don't do it.
But as long as you all lay down some ground rules and really talk things thru, it should totally work out and no one should get wrapped up or have hard feelings!!
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Do you have to share a kitchen? If so, don't do it!!!!
You might remember we are stuck living with my Mom right now b/c my Dad moved to NC and my Mom was supposed to follow at the end of the semester, but she "decided" to work to the end of the year about 3 weeks after we moved in. I think she just loves having me home and doesn't want to move.
It has been tremendously hard on our marriage. DH and my Mom do NOT get along (they got along fine before we moved in). I am always in the middle. They are constantly fighting for my attention. It is ridiculous. My Mom told me just this week that she doesn't know if she wants to move at all now. Thanks MOM! You could have told me this BEFORE we moved in or anytime this year!
Anyway, there is some upside. We are saving money and thats good, but I'd honestly say it is not worth it.
We have started seriously looking at what neighborhoods we can afford to move to and we are out of here as soon as our raises are approved for next fiscal year and we can get pre-approved for a mortgage.
Sorry this is so long. I am clearly very opinionated about this issue... PM here or on FB if you wanna chat.
Jen, I'm sorry, that sounds like it's really hard on you guys! Hope you can figure something out soon.
And Bonnie, I'd also say if there's a separate kitchen, maybe I'd do it. But then again, I don't think my DH would agree to move in with my parents. But really, as long as both you and DH are on the same page and as long as you sit down with your parents and talk things through, you should be fine. My mom is very meddlesome, so I don't know if I could deal with that. My sister and her boyfriend lived in their basement apartment for a year (completely separate, kitchen, bath, separate entrance, etc.) and my mom would go over there all the time! It's a good thing her bf is a very laid back guy!
In any case, good luck! And if you're not happy there for whatever reason, you can always look for something else!
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I agree. That's a really tough decision. We lived with my ILs for a couple months after we graduated college. It really got tough for me - but I think it was also due to me being frustrated at finding a job and not being able to move to nyc right away like I wanted. I love my ILs, they are truly kind, generous and I feel very close to them. But, even great relationships can be strained in live-together situations. I say live there as long as you sanely can and save oodles, and move to an apartment if it gets tough.
I have known a lot of people to move back in with family to help save money or for other reasons. It can be really tough, but if you have a set time that you want to leave it is probably easier. That way you can have an end in sight. I would definitely try to set some guidelines, though.