(inspired by Guava)
Who said it first? How long had it been? Any stories to share??
For months I told DH (then bf) that "I'm not in love with you yet" (I'm a sweetheart, huh???).
I was terrified he'd say it before I had prepared myself. Then I switched it to "I'm falling in love with you... but I'm not there yet....". Honestly, I think I was in love with him and too scared to admit it.
Finally, I said it first on a visit to his parents house about 4-5 month into the relationship. He laughed and said he was waiting for me to say it first because he knew I'd scare off too easily and that he had loved me long before that day. awwww.
Re: s/o: I love you
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Until yesterday, I've never been the person to say "I love you" first.
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DH & I were in the backseat of his best friend's car at a party. (honestly, actually just talking. i was supposed to be dating yet so we were exchanging christmas gifts while we had a chance). DH starts fumbling with his words about how we've been together for a few months now and we've been friends for a few years and he's totally fumbling for words... Well I interrupt him cause I think the point of his convo is to say that we've never done anything ummmm sexually. LOL. i'm sure my exact words were something along the lines of "i know and we haven't done anything." he stares at me all confused and is like um noooo that's not where i was going. i was going to say that i'm falling in love with you.
DOH! still makes die laughing. oh to be 16 and awkward
Warning: I'm too wordy and felt the need for setup.
I was scared too. I was 20 when we started dating and never in love with anybody else and not one to say it (even in high school and such) if I didn't know I felt it. I honestly wasn't sure how I'd know when I was. I started "falling for" DH pretty early in our dating, but we weren't in a committed relationship (he was casually dating somebody else he'd met around the same time he met me), so I was trying to keep things casual. He offered a few times to break it off with her, because he felt more between us and I would always say we weren't in a place where I felt like I had any right to control that and I didn't want him to end it with her *for me*. He's dense so he took that as he should keep seeing her and when I finally got around to saying I'd prefer if he didn't see her anymore (maybe a month or so into our romantic relationship/a couple months of friendship and talking online & the phone every day), he said he was no longer sure that there wasn't something between him and the other girl. Bastard! He actually did stop seeing her really shortly thereafter, but it set me back and took me longer to feel as strongly toward him again.
About 4 months into our relationship, we went through something really hard together and that solidified my love for him. That was right before Valentines and I remember on the 13th having this overwhelming urge to tell him I loved him and almost let it slip a time or two, but I was worried about him saying it back. We spent Valentines together and nothing. The day after Valentines, he told me. I didn't want to say it back immediately, because he knew how cautious I was and I didn't want him to think I felt pressured to say it back because he had. I told him probably an hour or two later.
DH told me first. We were in the car on our way from Austin back to Lubbock and law school. We'd been inseperable for about a month. I'd gone with him for a weekend trip for his friend's wedding. His ex (who he'd dated for 3 years and just broken up with OVER THE PHONE about 6 weeks earlier) was at the wedding and got drunk and asked if we were sleeping together. We were. It was awkward to say the least.
I guess we were talking about the odd events at the wedding and us and then he said, "What I am trying to say is that I love you." awwwwww.
I have a similar story to ThisGirlInAustin's about when DH and I started dating but it doesn't have anything to do with this post so I'll save that for another day.
I really didn't want to be the first one to say it with DH. And come to think of it, I don't think I had to be the first to say it in other relationships, though I might have in one and blocked it out. It was just before I was about to leave with my parents to go out of town for Christmas and we were exchanging gifts. We had been dating about 2-3 months at this time. We had just decided that we wanted to stay together as long as we could take it since I was going to be studying/interning in London the next semester. After we exchanged gifts at his apartment, I was sitting in his lap facing him and he said it. I'm pretty sure I said it back right away...I had known for a while, I just didn't want to jinx it by saying it until then. It was perfect.
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Haha. Just re-reading my second paragraph, my set up was totally unnecessary too. Oh well.
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