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Vent: Chronic lateness
I am SO annoyed and need to vent. I was supposed to have dinner with some work friends tonight for one's birthday. I don't have much frozen BM and I work tomorrow night so I wanted to only be gone for one feeding. One of my friends, let's call her J, knew I was hesitant about going because of the BM situation.
We were supposed to meet at 7 so I got there right on time (early, actually). I texted J at 6:45 and she said she was waiting for our other friend to pick her up and they had to pick up another friend (who lives WAY out of the way). She said, "hmmm we'll probably be late." You think? By the time they picked up the other friend I knew it would be at least 45 minutes before they got there. The restaurant wouldn't seat us without our whole party and I knew by the time they got there it would be almost 8 (our reservation was for 7:15). I wanted to get home by 9 to be able to nurse Kaya before bed.
I was SOOOO pissed because I realized I wouldn't be able to stay for dinner and that I wasted my time driving out to the strip. It's even more annoying because they are ALWAYS late. For J's bachelorette party we had dinner reservations at 7 and they were late getting their makeup done and we didn't end up getting seated until almost 9!
I did just end up leaving and I was fuming the whole way home. I called my BFF to vent. I just don't understand some people. I always try to be a few minutes early when I'm meeting people and can't stand when people are always late. It's like they don't value your time and I find it SO disrespectful. And none of them even texted or called to apologize. GRR. I should have just followed my gut and not gone in the first place.
Vent over. Thanks.
Re: Vent: Chronic lateness
Chronic lateness is one of my biggest pet peeves. My parents used to always tell me when I was growing up, that one of the most disrespectful things you can do to someone, is be late. It kind of stuck and now I really have issues trusting/connecting with people who are constantly late for no good reason. Maybe that's too excessive on my part but I do find it rude. I can't believe J knew about your BM situation, and didn't try to figure something out.
I'm sorry you had your evening ruined.
I hope this weekend will be better for you!
Ugh - I have a number of family members who are like this. Most of the time they don't even bother to call to tell you they're running late, either...they just waltz up three hours after when you agreed to meet and then are surprised and hurt that you're annoyed!
I'm sorry your evening was spoiled.
That really sucks. I'd be pretty mad too. My family suffers from time delusions - they somehow have no idea how long it really takes to get somewhere (or how slow they really move) especially when it comes to travelling. When I help make flight arrangements for my sisters, I alter their reservations and tell them their flights are about 30 minutes earlier than the actual departure time. It gives them a fighting chance to not miss airplanes. Sadly, I don't think they've really noticed yet.
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I couldn't agree more!
Sorry you had such a crappy night.
I love the term "time delusions"! That SO explains it
I admit, I am the chronically late person, it's one of those terrible habits that I can't seem to shake. It's not that I think, Oh well, screw whomever I'm seeing, it's more that I always underestimate the amount of time that it takes me to get somewhere or I don't plan for the "unknown" traffic, Ella barfing on herself right before we get out the door, etc. It drives me nuts about myself and I can certainly see how it would drive other people crazy. ESPECIALLY if they took it personally, like my bad habit and poor time management means that I don't respect them or their time, which it certainly not the case.
That being said, I'm usually talking about 10 minutes and not an hour plus, and I would totally be pissed if it was going to interfere at all w/ the feeding or otherwise care taking of my child.
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I think it's awesome that you left! Good for you.
I'm always early or on time and it also irritates me when people are late (but not as much as when people chew loudly). I have a friend who is constantly late and or cancels the event entirely.
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Is your co-worker Filipino? lol. Filipinos are known to have the FIlipino time mentality aka always late! It is annoying so I feel for you. Sorry you wasted your time waiting for nothing. I would get annoyed too.
Yes! Well, 2 of them are, J is not. From now on, we're telling them to be there an hour before they really need to be there!
Figures! lol. Actually, that's what some of my friends do. If they have parties, they will tell the guests to come at 3 pm when really the party starts at 4pm lol.