December 2007 Weddings
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RQOTWeekend : inlaws
we know how some people feel about their inlaws... but that's the RQOTW-
Do you like your inlaws?
How's your relationship with them?
Do you like them more or less since you've been married?
Re: RQOTWeekend : inlaws
Do you like your inlaws? I don't dislike them because they're DH's parents. No matter how crazy they drive me I know they mean well and I try to make the best of the situation.
How's your relationship with them? I make an effort to keep them up to speed on things but it's usually met with displeasure or unwanted rude opinions and then they get insulted when we don't tell them things. MIL tries with me but her way of trying to do things is just a little different and usually comes as unwanted. FIL doesn't seem to make an effort one little bit. They're not maternal and I don't think they know how to relate to girls very well.
Do you like them more or less since you've been married? About the same. They haven't changed much. They did become a little less intefering after DH told them to back off, which is good but I still feel like I'm being judged for everythinG i DO.
Do you like your inlaws? Yea. I'm not a huge fan of my SIL but it is because she is loud and annoying
How's your relationship with them? Pretty good. I really only see them about 2-3 times a year. It is his dad, 2 brothers, SIL, neice and nephew
Do you like them more or less since you've been married? I never really knew them before we got married.
How's your relationship with them? Our relationship with fil and smil is great. We like hanging out with them and they do with us too
We've gone rv-ing with them and go out to eat as much as we can. They give great advice and we all have a similar frugal lifestyle that's more focused on family and experiences than things. FIL loves me! haha. He called dh the other day just to tell him that I'm such a sweetheart. good to have him on my side 
oh and smil loves to sew and cook...i love that we're both into 'making'
Do you like them more or less since you've been married? we got along just fine before we got married. I guess it's gotten better because after we got married I truly felt like I was a real member of the family, so I felt more comfortable.
Do you like your inlaws? yep
How's your relationship with them? pretty good! We don't see them super often since MIL lives in Denver and BIL/SIL/nephews live in California (Bay Area). But I get along with all of them, and they're all very nice, generous people.
Do you like them more or less since you've been married? I've gotten to know BIL/SIL better since we've been married. I'd say I like them all pretty much the same, though, since I liked them all before we were married.
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Do you like your inlaws? Absolutely
How's your relationship with them? Since we live across the world, we dont get to see or talk to them all that often - absence definitely makes the heart grow fonder in this case. It's nice b/c dh calls them once a week or so and they love keeping up with us thru my blog. my ILs will email me every now and then too. they came to visit us last week and they voluntarily stayed in a hotel - they NEVER overstay their boundaries.
Do you like them more or less since you've been married? definitely more. when we were dating, it was always a little awkward for me b/c i would call them "mr & mrs" and not feel really comfortable when in their presence. but like lauren said, now i feel truly like part of the family and they know how good i am to their son so we have much better dynamics i think.
I seriously wouldn't even know where to begin on my relationship with my inlaws. There have been many times I've wanted to vent here but it's just way too much drama to get into : (
The most recent incident..they forgot DH's birthday. Didn't wish him a happy birthday till he called them the next day and reminded them (at my urging!)
No. MIL is super annoying and rude.
My relationship is ok. I think she's proably clueless about my feelings towards her. But, she isn't shy with her mean and rude comments towards me.
I like her less and less.
Aww, that is so sad
I know what it feels like to have your parents forget your birthday, and it really hurts. Although my grandpa was very ill at the time, so they were occupied with what was going on with him.
My DH has the same problem! What is the deal!? His dad and smom who raised him his whole life have forgotten at least 10 bday in his life....he now says that his bday isn't a big deal and he doesn't like to celebrate it b/c they ruined it for him when he was a kid...but his birth mom who hasn't seen him in 25 years remembers to send an e-mail or call every year since we found her...UGHHHH!!!!!!! I could NEVER imagine forgitting my kids' bday!
Do you like your inlaws? Now I do. Well let me take that back I always liked FIL I do not care for the woman he is married to and all the crap that her family puts on FIL. MIL our relationship has grown.
How's your relationship with them? Like I said before I LOVE FIL but the woman he is married to is trash and her kids are trash its just a bad situation. So bad TT has even told his dad to move in with us.
MIL like I said our relationship has grown I dont want to throw the dirty laundry out there but she moved away when TT was in HS and he lived with friends or his aunt and uncle. And then she was dating older man while dating the guy she is with now and TT told her she needed to pick between the two and stop leading people on like that and pretty much their relationship was damaged bc of that. When I came around they were mending fences on their relationship. She was just very selfish at the beginning now she has come around and I like her but still very guarded for the sake of TT. But TT and his moms relationship has never been the same.
Do you like them more or less since you've been married? I have always loved FIL and MIL our relationship has gotten better.
Do you like your inlaws? FIL is ok, MIL is a nightmare
How's your relationship with them? Not great. MIL is a very negative person and she sees me as the reason DH is not close to them anymore (physically and emotionally). She thinks I stole her son and forced him to move to Atlanta, away from them, when in fact, he hasn't lived anywhere near home (Columbia, SC) for 11 years! She's just very bitter and takes it out on me. DH and I have a very surface relationship with his parents.
Do you like them more or less since you've been married? I think it's about the same. If anything, it's better in the sense that we don't see them often, and DH now sees how his mom treats me, so he doesn't push to go visit or talk to them.