I'll try to keep this as short as I can, if you have further questions ask I just don't want to fly my family's freak flag if I don't have to. In person I don't care who knows but on the interwebs I'm just not so sure..
Most of you know that one side of my family is effed up. On that note I have been looking for a cousin of mine for awhile now. Last night I came across a bunch of stuff that points me into the direction of an individual, that has red hair (my aunt was a ginger kid), grew up in the same area that my cousin did and loves a certain 80's band that she did. I found this information out after coming across her dad's obit - I'm assuming it was him as I don't many people with his name.
How would you go about contacting her - I found her fb profile or who I assume to be her . I was thinking of sending her a message saying something along the lines of hey I think we may be related blah blah. However,
1. She has more animosity towards her moms (my dads) side of the family than I do. Like she did not want my Grandparents knowing that her mom had died, kind of animosity.
2. I haven't had any contact with her in 25 years.
I should also mention I'm not looking to establish myself as a permanent fixture in her life. I would love to keep in touch with her but I understand how weird it is for someone to show up out of the blue. But I'm coming to the point in my life that I realize I should extinguish some of the bridges that have been burned due to other people's involvement kinda thing.
What would you do?
P.S. please disregard all spelling and grammatical errors as I am now on my 4th glass of sangria.
Re: tell me how to deal with this
TTC #1 13 cycles, CP 6/09, TTC #2 1 cycle
CDing, EP'd for 13 months for #1, BFing for #2
Pregnancy Hypertension - inductions at 39w, I grow big babies: DD was 9 pounds 1 ounce 22 inches, DS was 11 pounds even 22 inches - both vaginal deliveries
Agree 100% with softskate on this one!