December 2007 Weddings
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S/O Carmen's wow post...
At what age do you think it's appropriate / necessary to discuss sex with your child? I have a feeling it's younger that when I was told about it ((coughs)) 13.
Re: S/O Carmen's wow post...
i never officially had a talk. mainly b/c i'd always change the subject when mom tried to talk to me about it. she got us a book on it when i was maybe 8 or 9? it was meant to explain sex to children. i don't remember really reading it word for word..but i always just kind of knew what sex was it seems like
like i said..a lot of girls in my class became sexually active..whether it was all out sex or otherwise in the 7th grade. it's awful to think about it, but i'd say to be safe i'd start talking to them about it around age 10. and ughh..i can't even imagine having to give that kind of talk!
p.s. we had absolutely NO sex education in hs. we had 'health' but we didn't discuss sex at all.
i was never really talked to about it but i had an older sis so maybe i "inferred" from their talks with her i dunno. i was pretty open with my mom, though, about how i'd heard some of my classmates were doing it in high school (my mom was our youth director at church and some of the youth were...doing it!) and so i'm sure by talking to her about it she could have guessed i was going the "right" direction since we discussed my feelings towards it.
i remember we had sex ed in 7th grade and again in 9th grade - in 9th grade it was a local pastor who didnt necessarily "churchify" it but did a good job at explaining the "gift" that sex was.
obviously i'm not a mom and it will be another 15 or so years before i even think about talking about sex with our kid(s) so..... who knows. guess we'll just have to see how the times have changed when we get there!
I think this is tricky. I guess I think that I don't think that it should ever be this big secret. I also don't think that you can/should tell kids things that are not age appropriate.
Personally, I learned about sex from teen magazines when I was about 8. I didn't totally understand, but I got the idea. When I just turned 10 I got my first AF and my mom didn't really do a good job of letting me know that that had anything to do w/ baby making, but I knew that it did from said teen magazines. We has sex-ed in 5th, 6th (In catholic school), and then in 7th, 8th, 9th and 10th grades (public school) it was a part of P.E.
We are pretty open and comfortable w/ the topic and will adress our kids' questions as they come up...that's the plan at least...:)
I went to a Catholic elementary school, and we had Human Sexuality class once a month all 8 years. We started out learning abour our bodies and respecting them, then in 4th and 5th grade we learned about puberity. In 6th grade we learned what sex was and had to discuss it with our parents for homework. My mom and I's discussion lasted about 5 seconds. She asked if I had questions, and I said no. 7th and 8th grades we learned more about respecting our bodies, esp. since they are changing so much.
I think we will have the talk with our kids before middle school b/c they need to know what their bodies are going through and to respect themselves and others.
Some friends of ours started the sex talk with their son when he was in first grade b/c he got an erection and freaked out b/c it hurt and scared him.