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And the drama with the old job continues...
I had my phone interview for unemployment today. First off, the screener kept insisting I quit which got me very frustrated and upset. She didn't want to hear what I was saying and basically prejudged me. I finally said it sounds like she's made up her mind about me quitting and thanked her for her time and asked her how I go about providing witness statements on an appeal. She said no one has made a decision you are jumping the gun. She then went on to say that the employer provided her with a bunch of information to support me quitting. She said they said I refused to continue working with my supervisor and quit. I said that I was very clear that I felt I would be harassed by him if I continue working under him and asked for alternative assignement.
She then read me a portion of their statement which said I was told on April 20th by the adoption coordinator that there would be a caseload change and they were clear with me that I was not losing my job. I told her I was going to stop her right there and that the agency provided an outright lie, that I NEVER talked to the coordinator that day. I said I'm interested to hear what else they have fabricated and asked her to read me the rest. She said she was trying to get my statement and get my side of the story. She kept turning everything that I was saying around.
I got so frustrated that I started crying (she could tell I was crying) and said this was ridiculous. This agency has done this to people before and they are doing it again. I said I'm a hard working person with a long and positive job history and for whatever reason this agency has decided they have it out for me. I said I have a baby on the way and there was no way in hell that I would ever irresponsibly quit my job when I have a family to support. She finally softened up and said I should provide evidence to refute what they were saying. I said I would, but I'm sure it didn't matter. I said everyone that works for that agency will do and say whatever it takes to win and will do whatever the director tells them to. She told me I need to think positive about this and about life.
I've just been so upset and crying all morning. I even threw up because I got myself so worked up. I just faxed over some emails supporting my claim that I emailed the agency after they terminated me insisting that I had not quit and also some other correspondence. I'm crossing my fingers, but I just want this whole nightmare to be over. I told DH that some friends had tried to convince me to sue the agency for wrongful termination and I hadn't been interested, but now I'm fired up and want them to pay. I don't know if I have the energy to fight that battle, but I'm just so angry they would do this. What the hell is it costing them? NOTHING. I pay into unemployment insurance. They are doing this out of spite. I usually don't wish ill on people, but I hope they all get hit by busses. Karma is going to get these people in the end. I just can't believe this is happening to me. I've tried so hard to stay strong and positive and just can't do it anymore. I may DD this later...
Re: And the drama with the old job continues...
I am soooo sorry!!!!! You should fight this! I am glad you faxed over the paperwork.
Try to calm down though...it's not good for you or the baby to be this upset.
I can't believe the unemployment screener seemed so biased. That's terrible. My last company tried to turn around the reason I was fired to make it so I didn't qualify. But I told the unemployment person exactly what I had said the day I filed. I guess they knew that company had tried that before, because I was approved.
It sounds like your last company is going out of their way to build up a case against you. I hope when you provide your witnesses and such, that it gets resolved quickly. I'd hate for you to go into a lawsuit over this, because the last thing you need is the stress from this old job continuing until that gets settled. So I hope it turns in your favor quick and you can finally move on!
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