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Thank you TK for making me a wedding snob!
We have received two wedding invitations in the last couple of weeks and I have judged them both badly! Both are from cousins on my side, here were my conclusions:
a) Was really tacky looking and did not coincide with the $50K budget my uncle is dishing out! It was one page on cheap paper and the parking info was on blue construction paper (colors are purple and yellow) just thrown in the envelope. There were mispellings on the invite and they included a US stamp (hello, I live in Canada) on the return envelope with not enough postage, so I had to peel it off and get my own postage. They mailed it out 4 months before the wedding which is July 24th.
b) Was a single pocket fold and so plain. I could tell she ordered everything on online and assembled her self. Which is totally okay, I did that. It was just ALL ivory, the only splash of color was the navy blue lining on the envelope (her colors are navy and green). It was so boring and she did not include postage on the return envelope. I was annoyed so I responded via FB if she didn't follow ettiquette then why should I, I also just got the invite and the wedding is June 12th and missed the response deadline of May 20th. I know Canadian mail takes about 10 days from the US, but still.
I know I sound like a b*tch and I am by no means wedding perfect, but I swear TK has made me this judgmental. Has anyone else found themselves acting/thinking like this? Please tell me I am not alone!
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Re: Thank you TK for making me a wedding snob!
I don't judge stuff like that, but I was horrified when a family member suggested we tell people that we wanted easily packable gifts for our CA reception. We did small registries of things like sheets and kitchen gadgets that we can fit in suitcases - if someone decides to go off-registry and get us something we can't fit, then oh well, we'll leave it in CA for now. But I'm not going to contact people to tell them what to buy!
Before TK I wouldn't have done that either, but I wouldn't have known just how bad it was.
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Yeah, that might be a bit much. My invites were all ivory with black writing and put in ivory envelopes. No color used at all. I didn't think people really judged invites like that.
I would be totally annoyed at the postage thing and sending the invite so close to the wedding. One of our friends sent us an invite with a response card... with no address OR stamp. I'm like, how do I even know where to send this??
My grandparents are staunch Bostonians who raised my mom with Emily Post's manners books in their back pockets. Thus, I always knew the general rules of thumb when it comes to when to send things, thank you notes, etc.
As a professional designer, I've always kind of judged invitations. A good friend of mine is getting married in July and I offered to design, print and assemble his invitations as his gift. He graciously declined and I thought nothing of it... until I got his invitation in the mail. Not only was it 5 months before the wedding, it was hideously ugly. It was purple, iridescent, had an embossed princess castle and the type was so small I could hardly read it. Additionally, the last name of the groom ends in the letter "z" but in the font used, it looked a lot like an "x." It was so bad I actually showed a friend.
I don't think TK ruined me, but it did open my eyes to paying attention to the details of other people's events.
I think TK opened up my eyes. I'm used to grand, lavish affairs since that is what my social circle/family does. While TK was great to bounce ideas off people and gain perspectives on timelines, etc., I noticed I was more of an "outsider" since I wasn't having a budget wedding and had no DIY aspects. I'm happy people have the day THEY want, and really think that that is all that matters, but I'm sure I've cringed looking at things/ideas (and they probably think aspects of my wedding were a waste... but it's what we were each brought up envisioning so to each his own).
I will, however, say I'd probably judge someone who wants me to travel a considerable distance for a wedding and only plan on having a cake/punch reception.
I've received two wedding invites, but they were both pretty cute! I appreciated how much detail went into coordinating pocket folds when one arrived in brown and yellow tones for her sunflower theme -- it was so cute I was like a kid at Christmas!
At the opposite end was the other invite, totally modern with mostly black and white, but they're having their reception at the downtown Arts Incubator. It was tasteful, simple, and fit the overall tone of the wedding. I appreciate it that much more, too!
I agree, I went a bit over board with my opinions. But my cousin is a total snob and has always thought she was better than the rest of us, so I guess it surprised me as I expected extremely elaborate invitations! Her STDs were beautiful, invites were just blah! If it wasn't hers I probably wouldn't have been so critical!
BFP #1 2/28/12- 3/3/12 CP at 4w3d
BFP #2 4/1/12- 5/7/12 Missed M/C at 8w4d (measuring 6w3d)
TTC on hold until December
Ahh, it makes sense now. I like judging people like that too! I really do. That's not sarcasm.
Haha ya after I read your comment, I realized I sounded like a total b*itch! I am usually not this judgmental I swear!
BFP #1 2/28/12- 3/3/12 CP at 4w3d
BFP #2 4/1/12- 5/7/12 Missed M/C at 8w4d (measuring 6w3d)
TTC on hold until December
LOL Yeah I went back and thought the same thing about mine. I totally feel where you're coming from, Emily. The invitation we got, the couple was bragging about how they spent this elaborate amount on the wedding and reception and then they send these little boring invitations. I guess they overspent on the wedding
I wouldn't generally judge others but only if they get on my nerves.
Oh, I'm a total picture snob too, but that's because my photographer is one of my best friends, so she's sent me millions of amazing wedding photos over the past year or so. By comparison, I look at some people's at just shake my head...not that everyone necessarily wants or needs top-of-the-line photos, but when people talk about how amazing their photographer is and the photos are glorified snapshots, I have to laugh.
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